Im getting pretty down and miserable about never being able to get anything from people going down on me. It is fine me going down on them, and I have eagerly pleased both guys and girls, and I am fine when masturbating, but when I get head/handjob off anyone else I really just dont get anything out of it and i dont know why. This is because a) I cant finish, and b) often cant feel anything to very little at all, like the area is numbed, even when they are slobbering away and doing all the right things, and this has happened with both guys and girls regarding sex I get a lot more out of it, although it is still a rarity for me to actually finish - even when masturbating it can take up to 30 mins to get myself off. I dont know whats wrong with me and its really getting me down, as well as feeling really awkward and embarrassed in the situation when the guy/girl is clearly putting in a passionate effort - leading to them to feel the same/disappointed/confused What are your thoughts on this, and what should I do/can I do? :bang:
*Ques the music: You Are Not Alone- Micheal Jackson* err.. sorry. I just got done catching up on Glee. But You really aren't alone. I am the same. LITERALLY. Once a guy goes down on my in that way I lose my erection. Hey! I never thought too much of it. If it doesn't work for you, it just doesn't. End of story. Nothing's wrong in the other departments, are they?
I have the same issue and have yet to figure out what to do to make it better… I can almost never have someone get me off unless it is penetrative sex and it is really difficult even then even when it is good.
This is going to be a rather personal question, but do you watch porn most of, if not all the time when you masturbate? The reason is, is that if you do it becomes a habit to your brain. So when you get stimulation without the porn you just aren't as into it, as it sort of dulls your minds own ability to realise the situation it's in, and requires direct visual input. If you don't, can you masturbate with just your mind and still get off? All the best.
I do watch porn sometimes but also get off with just my mind - i will try cutting it out, but this is something which has always been a problem - it just feels like my penis is less sensitive than it should be - sometimes my whole body feels numbed out too :/
Mmm... Maybe your just not into it as other men are. Some guys, though few, don't find pleasure in penetrative sex. Other's won't even touch the subject of oral sex. Maybe you find the act a bit off putting? Everyone likes and dislikes different things
I have nearly the exact the same issue/problems you describe. Are you circumcised? If so, that could very well be the issue. I feel it is with me anyhow. If you're cut, you're missing quite a lot of nerve endings unfortunately. There are some things you can do... Like L-Arg-nine and Zinc supplements, stop smoking, stop masturbating. Also, talk to your partner about where they should focus on your penis for best result.
Search "deathgrip". Might be related. Also, if you are cut, you can't beat off multiple times a day and still expect to have that same amount of sensitivity there when it comes to sex. The skin and glands just get dried out.
