Depth training: question about the second sphincter

You need to find the best spot that you can relax. Relaxing is he biggest key to any anal play. Just make sure your comfortable and perfectly lubed/prepared for it to go. Just take it slow! Figuring out your body takes some time. Just keep at it and be gentle and eventually you should figure out the best way to relax the second sphincter so that you can get it in lol. Also enemas are only bad if you use them more then once a day, just be cautious with the enema! Good luck, and remember have fun!

~Zack~

 

Well, a 10" dildo is way beyond what the average guy would be prepared to take.

There's a thread in the reference section of the forum here that talks about the "second sphincter". The two sphincters are so close together anatomically that most guys really aren't aware of there's two sphincters. It's really that internal sphincter that is the one that is more work to relax. Inexperienced guys will often complain that their boyfriend can get the head or the tip of the penis inside and then there's a point of resistance that takes a while to penetrate. In actuality, the issue is that the bottom hasn't relaxed the internal sphincter- the external sphincter is so easy to relax that most guys don't find it difficult to penetrate.

If you're getting most of the dildo into you (i.e. more than 3-4 inches), then you're passed the internal sphincter. Any resistance you feel after that may be the junction of the rectum and the sigmoid colon- usually around 6-8" inside where there is a sharp leftward turn in the colon that is pictured here:
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/physical-sexual-health/26747-anal-sex-basic-questions-anatomy.html

 

That's what I suspected.

The junction is flexible and you may need to try a different position that removes some of the effects of gravity- for example, cowboy position instead of missionary position.

But I'd be remiss if I didn't say that a dildo that is that much longer than a real penis is beyond the normal expectations of anal sex.

 

What is the point of depth exploration? Planning on going into porn?

 

Some people like it. Simple.

 

Well I guess my next question, which is very similar to my first one, is why?

 

For the same reason some guys are turned on by the idea of a long penis or big breasts.

 

Hi there,
I read your post. I have a 18 inches x 1,5 inches dildo and I can do as deep as 10 inches. After that I'm having some troubles and cannot get past this. Any tips for me?
Thx
Tom

 

I have a doc johnson 18"crystal jelly (1.7"D), I had practiced with cucumbers up to 15", until I could get them all the way in, it hurt a bit, but I took my time, relaxed, and relubed a couple times. I just got this 18" dildo two days ago. first day I got 15" in, today I took it all, my eyes about popped out! I LOVE IT, many people ask why someone would want to go that deep, they don't know what they are missing. You can do it, just relax, when it stops,back off an inch or two,and try again.