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Questioning My Label

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by QuietIntrovert, Jul 4, 2013.

  1. QuietIntrovert

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    I hate labels and as far as I'm concerned love is love. But I'm having a mini crisis. If I had to label myself, I would be straight. I've always been attracted to men for as long as I can remember. As I've gotten older (mid-teens to present, currently 23), I have fantasized about female celebrities and women in general. No one I know, just made up women. I was told most women have girl crushes and its just a fantasy, not an indicator that you actually want to be with a woman romantically. I have always been much much more attracted to men, so I never questioned my sexual orientation until recently. I realized that while I have been emotionally attracted to all my past boyfriends (including my current one), I have not been physically/sexually attracted to them. Which leaves me unsure.

    Am I just dating the wrong men? Because I've been physically attracted to random men or male friends. And while I like the idea of sex, I am not really fond of the reality of sex with a man or woman. I much prefer the fantasy of it. I'm a virgin, so I've never had a sexual experience with anyone other than myself. I'm just left incredibly confused.
     
  2. LD579

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    Maybe you're just not that much of a sexual person. Maybe you need to develop stronger feelings for someone before you get a sexual desire towards them. For labels, that'd either be demisexual or asexual or something similar. Sounds like labels aren't for you, though. If you read up on those terms I mentioned, though, they may strike some chords with you.
     
  3. MerBear

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    You could be be heteroromantic