so ive always been straightt i was even interested in girls like a year or two before all my other friends were but for the last 6-8 months ive bee questioning if im gay, ive definitely started liking guys i wont deny that but i also still like girls, in persom i still get mezmerized by a nice ass or tits yet always look for hot guys with nice bulges and whatnot too, i have sex dreams about guys and girls and i watch straight and gay porn but its weird because sometimes i wont get hard from straight porn unless i play around a little at the same time first and i dont always get quite as hard as when i watch straight porn, i started getting head from a girl a while ago before i realized i could be gay and i went soft but i was also suuupeer nervous and a couple of my friends have said the same thing happened to them so i dont know if it was nerves or because im gay, girls make me hard in person still but ive been afraid to do anything like head since the last incident the most thats happened is a girl was giving me under the pants hand i was progressively getting more hard until we saw a cop car and she stopped, im currently going into grade 10 so this is all pretty overwhelming id be increddibly fuckin thankful if people could give me advice on this as to if im gay or bi, thanks alot
Hi, So what I'm reading above seems to have some inconsistency in it, which probably reflects the confusion you're experiencing... and also, possibly, a reflection of what you want to believe rather than what you really believe. At its simplest, it boils down to this: Where do your eyes wander when you aren't really paying attention? Do they go equally to guys and girls, more to guys, or more to girls? The problem is, as soon as you pay attention, then your conscious mind will give you the response you want, so the trick is to notice where you are looking when you *aren't* thinking about it. Likewise, what happens when you masturbate without porn? Where do the fantasies go? Do you imagine getting head from a guy, or a girl? Sex with a guy or a girl? Going down on a guy or a girl? That, too, gets interference from what you *want* the answer to be rather than what you actually find yourself doing, so you have to enter into it trying to get the most honest answer you can. It sounds like you've definitely got some attraction toward guys, but it's hard to tell if you're mostly gay, or closer to the middle or closer to straight. And I don't think you can make a clear assessment right now, because it sounds like you're just starting to think about it and explore it. So the more you open up to possibilities, the more honest an answer you'll be able to get.
thanks that makes sense but what do you think would happen if i just tried gettling head this weekend? does it sound like it would work out?
I'd say that, if you can get head this weekend, you shouldn't go into it getting all psyched out; just let it happen and ask yourself, "am I enjoying this?" This is by no means a 100% indication that you're straight/gay/bi, but it could serve as a decent point of reference from which you can better assess your current frame of mind regarding this issue.
