overthinking

BelleLey,

As someone at age 26 who is also questioning, I came in to say that you should not worry about "starting too late." Try opening yourself up to some friends and going out sometimes. If you're experiencing social anxiety, consider seeing a therapist that can help you overcome that. But please do not think that you are running out of time or harbor any thoughts of that nature, you have plenty of time to discover who you are and to build relationships with people!

I overthink things a lot too, but you shouldn't discount any thoughts you have about women. Don't jump to any hard and fast conclusions, but rather indulge your curiosity and let yourself lead the way.

 

No problem. I also noticed that your mood is "depressed." When I've had bouts of anxiety and depression, getting out and doing something helps a lot because it's a distraction. It doesn't have to be with friends, but that helps a lot. Maybe take a walk somewhere, or grab a pair or rollerblades and skate, or something similar.

 

Cool! Check out what's going on in your area. There are probably groups or charity work nearby that will have like-minded individuals. More contact with people like that will both satisfy your desire to be a part of something and may help you explore your true attractions.

 

Did you have crush on anybody? How are your feeling toward your friends?
So if you're not experiencing any of these, it could turn out to be good for you, questioning too much just cause more confusion, overanalyzing and depression. Personally, I would not recommend you actively seek out or contemplate any answer for your question? Just live the life you felt comfortable and happy with, the answer would naturally revealed itself to you. :icon_bigg

 

You sound rather Asexual in my opinion, you never mentioned anything about sexual attraction towards any gender in particular and you say you have butterflies in your stomach if you see women kissing each other, that can mean 2 things really.

1. You are excited a little and want to see more.

2. You are uncomfortable and do not wish it to go further than it already has.

You also mentioned the lack of crushes on anyone which makes me think you are either Demisexual or Aromantic, but more likely Demisexual as you seem to be interested in romantic relationships of some sort. Romantic orientation and sexual orientation are two whole different things and basically two sides of the same attraction coin. As for not having any at all you could just may have to put yourself out there, although; experimentation is always good and can be fun; although, it is in the end your choice altogether. There are ways of figuring out your orientations through pictures online, and mental images, look up on google pictures of naked men and women, then look up stories of romance and think about it from your perspective if you were in that situation, who do you envision yourself being, the man or the woman, also do you prefer lesbian romance or gay romance? Lastly, mental images, who do you see yourself with, sexually and emotionally?

Anyways, I hope I helped as all this helped me figure my orientations out. If you do happen to figure it out though, tell us; we'll support you if you need it