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Bisexual or Lesbian? Input would be nice :)

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by LyingEyes, Jul 10, 2013.

  1. LyingEyes

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    Location:
    Denver, Co
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    I know how common it is for people to question their sexuality, and I'm in no way trying to rush the process. What I've been doing for the past year or so is just going with the flow, and steering away from any labels, or if someone really wanted to know, I'd say I'm bisexual.

    I'm 15. I have lots of time to figure it out, but it's been on my mind lately. I do believe I have some sexual attraction to men, but I really don't have any romantic or emotional attraction to them. When I was a little girl, I always had 'girl crushes' on celebrities or characters from shows or books (sometimes my own characters, hehe). I'm not sure if it's just infatuation or if I'm really more attracted to women.

    As for the sexual attraction, I guess you could say that men turn me on in some ways, but in real life (basically, out of the world of porn :icon_wink ) I'm never really attracted to any boys. I guess you could say I'm extremely picky. None of them really do it for them. I think I've seen one guy I was actually attracted to. But I see pretty women everywhere. Not that they're all my type, but I just find them generally more physically attractive.

    So I'm wondering if I've kind of been conditioned by society to find men attractive, or if it's real. I'm just having some trouble deciding if I lean more towards men or women. I've had sex with men, and that was fine I guess. I've never had sex with a women but I'd try it, of course.

    I don't really care about the label itself, but I'd like to pin down my feelings a little more.

    I don't know :/ Anybody else that went through/is going through this?
     
  2. lsl1995

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    Well I'm still a virgin, but I have been in relationships with guys before and I find that the relationships always went downhill for me when I was faced with the whole "when should we have sex" question. And that's kinda how I knew that maybe I might not like guys as much as I wish I liked guys.

    Maybe it's that you're attracted to their personality. Because that's how it is for me. I'll be hanging out with an attractive boy who's funny and smart and just has an all-around great personality and I'll think, "wow, I really wish he was a girl. A girl would be great with this personality."

    So in the end, I think you'll answer the question yourself. There will come a point where you just know.