I haven't had any very intimate experiences with either sex but i've had crazier infatuations for women. However, I read that women's sexuality is typically more fluid. Meaning, we can be aroused by either sex without thinking about it. I know that I get turned on by straight dancing (weird), but I also find two girls together very beautiful. I also feel more emotionally attached to women, but is that just typical anyway? So I wonder if I will eventually fall in love "emotionally" with a man. Should I assume I'm straight/ bi/ gay or just leave it as "undecided"?
It can be fluid, but just women's in general is rather stupid; I think their just more comfortable and accepting of their own sexuality more than men are. It depends; do you see yourself in a relationship with one? Maybe you should experiment.
I think you misunderstood what I said; I said JUST women's sexuality being more fluid seems rather stupid.
This may sound like a non-answer but it's really whichever label you feel most comfortable wearing. I do think women are given more latitude sexually because many straight men are turned on by watching women make love to each other.
But don't you see the logical fallacy in that though, by that logic, so many people who had sex with both genders would be Bi because they are capable of having sex with both; anyone can have sex with anyone, it's about how you feel like you want to have sex with more, just because women have sex with other women just for the attention of men does not mean their lesbians, their weird women trying to get attention from men. Lesbians who have sex with one another do not have sex with each other for attentions sake.
It makes things more difficult to understand for women. men....see, if i was guy ....it would be less confusing for me unless i was one of those guys who had OCD and read too much into porn or something (no offense to people who have OCD).....it seems, men know more of what they want than women do.
I don't think that; I think women do more; they seem more comfortable to get at least within 4-2 meters and possibly hug and kiss each other on the cheek friendly-ish more than men, if a man does any of those things he is considered a homosexual or bi sexual and the person they do it to can either react in two ways, be confused or defensive. Of course, not all women do what I said above, but there are who do.
No. i mean,....as in general questioning or something....i feel like, since its more fluid for women, its hard to detect where you lie as to a guy.... I just see a lot guys on here who just know they like guys and have a solid grip on there sexual orientation and some who have always known to some extent. as for some women who haven't always known but i guess suspect and still are a little confided on where they lie on the spectrum needless to say, this is from my experience from LGBT people
Fluid or not, something has got you questioning to the point of making an account on an LGBT support forum. I think it's important to let everyone make their own decisions and at their own pace, which is why I say not to focus so much on labels right now; they're the last thing someone questioning needs. Arousal doesn't exactly point towards attraction, and I think it's a rather silly way to measure sexual fluidity or orientation. Not to steer you in the wrong direction, but many LGBT who first realize they might not be straight have thoughts similar to yours. Some people never stop questioning. Anyway, it's a journey, and one that is different for everyone. You shouldn't have to feel pressured to "choose" as soon as possible, and in fact, would advise against that type of thinking. Keep an open mind! Anything can happen, and it's best you make sure you're prepared for whatever outcome. Also remember, sexuality is just one small part of you, and doesn't define you as a person. Good luck.
I don't mean to bump my thread , but your post deserves a thank you. You're right...I am on an lgbt forum :roflmao: . Well, I'll try to wait for college. But I doubt I'll find a serious relationship there.
There's this idea that you have to have realized same-sex attractions from an early age, and either were in-denial or closeted until coming out at a later age, but some people generally don't get that far, and only find out later after falling for a friend, or realizing heterosexual sex has little appeal for them. As per women's sexuality being more fluid, well, I think women are given a lot more leeway to explore those areas than men, and there are heavy pressures to remain pure, find a guy, settle down, have kids, etc, and it's not uncommon for women to actually delve into their sexuality later in life - you hear of cougars and late-blooming lesbians, for example. That, and arousal might not be so... physical and obvious as it is for men. Sure, I think there are fundamental differences between male and female sexuality, but until we drop the silly double standards, and study both objectively, we'll never know for sure how they differ. I can safely say, from experience, is that society as a whole is not ready to accept the possibility that male sexuality might not be so black-and-white, after all. From professionals, out to disprove the theories, to every day folk, who will vehemently attack the arguments, I get the idea that it's men who are their own worst enemies in this regard. Though, it's also not unheard of for men to identify as straight and "realize" they weren't much later in life. Some will argue that sexuality is 100% in born, and they were repressing, while others will say sexuality is fluid, and they simply moved across the continuum. Guys weren't even on my radar sexually or romantically for the first twenty one or so years of my life; I fell for, fantasized, dreamed, and felt attracted to women only. I've been questioning for a while, and let me tell you, there's been no shortage of the policing - You're straight! You're gay! Well, that's my call and my call alone.
