Hi all, lately ive been having doubts about whether or not i am truly bi. I have identified myself as bi-curious/sexual for the past 2 years but im starting to wonder if i really am. I take a lot of interest in LGBT news, stories, etc and i have many friends who identify as bisexual and im wondering if those aspects of my life are some how making me want to be bi. I am wondering if my identification is genuine or if its me just unknowingly wanting to fit in with a hot, controversial topic, almost like a trend or a fad.. The last thing i want to do is live my life believing im someone im really not and im truly confused and slightly scared of the possibility that maybe im not bi. I definitely like girls but ive gotten horny watching gay porn as well which makes me further question whether its a phase of experimentation or if i am simply attracted to both men and women. Another interesting fact is that i dont enjoy watching straight porn. Its either girl on girl or guy on guy. Im not sure what it means but i am looking for advice, help, or support. Thanks for reading.
Well there is more to being gay than having an interest in LGBT themed things and to watching gay porn, you can be straight and watch as well as get off to gay porn and are fully capable of being gay and getting off to lesbian porn, porn is made to be exciting and interesting so it is not an accurate reasoning to say you are what you are attracted to... Basically, I think you are just curious at the very least mostly; you say you are attracted to women but yet you mention NOTHING of men which makes me wonder if you are, if not; I'd say you're straight and just simply curious because you find gay porn arousing. So basically, to know for sure, experiment and try out; or something, can you see yourself in a relationship with a man or does your mind give you thoughts of gay sex with another man? If so; most importantly; do they turn you on? If you answered yes to all of these than you would most likely be Bisexual.
My slightly radical opinion: If you don't want to be straight, you already aren't. If you're "just curious" enough to get off gay porn, you're curious enough to be bi. But, yes, no mention of any same-sex attraction IRL is sort of unusual.
One thing I've found to be somewhat useful for my own questioning is to ask myself whether I would want a romantic and/or sexual relationship with someone of a given gender. For example, if a cute guy with a great personality asked you out, would you accept (ignoring fears about homophobia, coming out, etc.)? Of course, this isn't the final word on what your orientation, since you can be attracted to someone without wanting to do anything with them. I have found, however, that questions like these help me figure out how to move forward.
There's always the possibility that you're bisexual-heteroromantic. Sometimes people can be sexually attracted to a gender that they have no romantic interest in (I think I might be in that boat, only bisexual-homoromantic).
