so Im realizing that Im probably gay. Although I feel like I keep reverting back to looking at girls in a sexual way. I do know I can name beautiful female faces off the top of my head but not so much for guys. I like female face, but a guys body. But I don't like the combination of them, I think Is this normal for people coming out of denial and originally thinking they were straight for 20 years. I feel like sometimes I can get into a guys face, but I usually find something disgusting or I start to feel uncomfortable. Maybe a guy with longish shaggy hair might be my type. I just know I don't like touching a male's head with short hair Also, am I wired this way, or has porn given me taboo fantasies? Which raises the next question.. Is porn a reliable indicator?
I only know the answer to your last question, unfortunately. Porn is a very unreliable resource to discovering your sexual identity. We are programmed to be turned on by sexual intercourse, it doesn't matter who it's between.
Yes, it's "normal" for people to come out of denial later in life. I put normal in quotes because it is such a relative term Porn gives people taboo fantasies and that situation will almost never arise which is why porn is not a reliable indicator. That's just my opinion. Naming beautiful female faces has noting to do with it lol. Again, just my opinion. You said that you can lust for women, but can you visualize them without any clothes on and still find whatever lies underneath attractive or do you immediately get turned off? Everything I said may be horrible or good...I really don't know
That's how I am, sort of. I like breasts just fine (sexually, I might add), but I don't like the genitalia attached to them. And a guy with breasts doesn't quite fit to me. I dunno.
I get sort of stressed out now when I think of girls. I also have displayed what the internet calls rocd, I'm not sure if that's related but I think it is. I just don't think I can get emotionally involved with a guy, also I still daydream of finding the right girl, I feel like I'm straight at my core since this is how I lived my life for so long. I might just be obsessed with the idea and perception of a women in the love world and there role and such. I think its cuter with a guy ans a girl instead of guy on guy, I think lesbians are cute too! Regardless of.how I think I got here I'm gay, I feel a much stronger arousal when thinking of sucking a cock then pussy.
Most people are somewhere between 100% straight and 100% homosexual. I see it as a spectrum. You are just not 100% straight. Maybe you are not as close to the straight end as most people who identify as straight. Maybe you are close to the middle of the spectrum (bisexuality) but not fully in the middle. It might help to think about this as a spectrum and not like you have to be fully straight or fully bisexual or fully gay.
Well I do want to be fully straight. I think its obvious I'm not. I do feel like I'm still a little in denial and haven't fully accepted it. I've been in denial for three years. I was in a 2 year relationship which I don't regret, but when I was with her I wanted to get out. I did jump into the relationship cause I was scared I was turning gay, also, I smoked weed a lot and watched tons of porn if it matters. Growing up I always watched female porn without a problem. Anyways Somtimes I feel asexual, like I don't want to deal with being gay. Sometimes I feel like I do have a fluid sexuality and since women have hurt me, my body is just going with the opposite sex. So I do hope I'm bisexual with the ability to change depending on outside influences, but that's probably unlikely, n would have to happen without me forcing it if it was possible I know I've had problems with girls in the past, and my mother, and I sort of started thinking how slutty and what's wrong with girls these days. Whenever I hear of a beautiful girl being a slut my stomach goes into a knot. So I'm not sure if I feel this way about girls because I'm gay, or if feeling this way about girls, with constant reinforcement made me switch. Also, I havent really had many girl friends since I got into the relationship I was in. Which makes me think maybe my body is leaning towards the fact I socialize with men a lot more, these days, it used to be even, and at one point the opposite, I talked to many many girls in highschool and was then sure of my sexuality.
its like reading a lot of how I feel. Except I came out and now I feel obliged to be gay... I'm a lucky one I guess, everyone has been great... Yet I can't help but feel I'm supressing heterosexual desires... I think porn has damaged a lot of people. Have you watched a lot of porn over the years?
I've watched porn and have masturbated everyday pretty much or about 8 years. Its usually multiple times a day. I might go a day or two without it, but when this happens I usually have a killer boner and a need to release asap. So Ill be at my friends sleeping over with a boner that won't go away and ill end up playing with it secretly just not masturbating. I'm goingto try really hard to fight the urge though for a few months, i feel like it would clear some things up
Yeah, I think maybe porn is damaging society a bit... But its easy to blame things... Yeah try and stop watching it cuz U may just be a compulsive masturbater or a sex addict. I guess when youre obsessed with sex you'll try and get your jollies any way possible, just looking for something new and exciting!
I can very much relate to this. In my case I think i really am BI but its hard for me to accsept that. I really want to be one or the other so i can settle down with someone and be fully satisfied. But Unlike you i am very attracted to pretty much everything about both sex's i like breast a lot, and i like female genitalia. I like the female figure. I prefer slightly less dainty and overly girly girls but i also like guys who have a personality somewhere in between not to butch but not to super gay. and i like the male form as well as penis. I very much enjoy oral with either. The only thing i don't like is Anal sex... which seems to push me more towards straight cause anal sex is like the bread and butter of a homosexual relationship but that's not really fair haha. both sexes have butts :dry: but yeah its insanely frustrating. Straight people have it so good. I must be great to never have to question your sexuality.
I am a compulsivr masturbator. It will be 2-4 times in a hour every other day, or its spread out But could that really mess with your preference.
There's really no scientific evidence to support excessive porn usage to change ones sexual orientation. There's not much to support sexual orientation changing in general. Keep in mind that what may be sexually exciting in porn may actually be gross in person.
That's very true.. so I could be really attracted to gay things possibly cause of the taboo factor, but in person I might not like it? Just like how when I kissed two dudes I wanted to spit.
He has a point. I know lesbians who watch gay porn, gay men who watch lesbian and straight porn, straight women who watch lesbian porn, and straight men who watch gay porn. It doesn't mean they want to be a part of sexual acts opposite of their orientation. Some are curious, some are generally turned on for whatever reason, and some will watch anything. There's a lot of taboo, especially for straight men, to admit this, so you don't hear it mentioned often. Personally, I like seeing people in general turned on, which seems to be somewhat of an anomaly among men. You know, "straight men only watch straight porn, gay men only watch gay porn"? I've felt sexual attraction towards women, still do, wouldn't turn it down, and could enjoy it under the right circumstances. In fact, after my ex and I broke up, we still fooled around sexually, with me initiating several times. Lately, though, my heart has been elsewhere: men. At least, after waking up, that's when the fantasies are most vivid, and I've gotten ultra aroused from them. There's usually an emotional undertone, which was missing with many of the ones I've had with women. This is coming from a formerly straight identified male, who never even thought of or acted on same-sex attractions for twenty something years. Again, I wouldn't turn down sex with a woman, but pursuing a relationship? Perhaps on some level, I think one with a man would be a lot shorter, less stressing, and more egalitarian... or maybe this is another form of denial. It's not unlikely that I had considered the possibility, became comfortable with it, and started viewing gay porn after that. I'd give the pornography and the drugs a break and honestly see where my fantasies, attention, and heart takes me. Sexuality is *not* black-and-white, it exists on a continuum. Your attractions, your identity, and your choices are your own and anyone who has a problem with them isn't worth the worry. Before deciding whether you're gay, straight, bisexual, or something else, you have to first be okay with the idea of having same-sex attractions, and being gay, or else you'll keep avoiding the topic and never find closure. Try it out for a few weeks, or months: try "wearing" the gay label and see if it fits. It's not uncommon for individuals to try multiple labels before settling on one, sometimes bouncing back-and-forth, sometimes saying, "f*** it" and forgetting labels altogether. I remember one member comparing discovering you're sexually attracted to men to discovering you like broccoli, nothing worth panicking over.
