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Am I lesbian? Bi? Straight? Just a phase?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by milliestilinski, Jul 23, 2013.

  1. milliestilinski

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    I get huge 'crushes' on male tv actors, so much so that my stomach flutters a little when they smile. I have had sex dreams of both genders (im a virgin btw), and yesterday I masturbated to a video that came up of two girls kissing. I haven't tried with guys yet.
    I was watching a sex scene in game of thrones but I was more drawn to watching the woman than the man, but she was naked and he was not.
    When I see a hot shirtless guy on tv, my eyes are automaticly drawn to ogle at his torso and abdomen... but whenever I see a penis it just looks like a creepy weird dangly thing. I am seriously not turned on by penises. AT ALL. Penises do NOTHING for me, but female genitalia really does.

    But, I have only started feeling this way for the past month or so, and I have heard of many people who have gone through a "lesbian phase" in their teens. I am only 15, so i might just be temporariily bi-curious?

    Please help me. I feel like my hormones are trolling me!

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  2. fluffyhandcuff

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    Well, I know a lot of straight women who don't find penises really attractive. And a lot of straight women masturbate to lesbian porn, simply because it has more action for the woman in it (if that makes sense). Don't let the masturbate-thing misguide you,it could be just curiousity. Even though I have to say that this was how it started for me, with sexual attraction.
    You could be just bi-curious but you could also be a heteroromantic homosexual or just a lesbian who has thought she was straight the whole time just because that's what society tells us is normal.

    How do you feel about the idea being in a relationship with a woman? I think that might help figuring everything out, if you knew how you'd feel about that.
     
  3. CuriousBunny

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    I can't offer any advice, but I can say that you're not alone. I'm in practically the same (but opposite) situation as you. Female genitalia (below the waist) disgusts me, while I am turned on by male genitalia. I believe that I am bisexual though, and not just going through a phase.
     
  4. Smartie

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    This basically explains my situation, however I am aware that I would like a relationship with a girl as well maybe even more than just the sexual aspects of a relationship. I would like to actually have an inter-mate relationship with another girl. I think this is a big thing to figuring everything out.

    Just as insight, although my situation is very similar to urs I have had sex with a guy and although i liked the closeness of the situation Im not sure I enjoyed the actually sex and the penis part as much as maybe I should have?

    All i can suggest it take your time to think things through, discuss it with trustworthy friends, maybe lesbian friends who can offer advice? And you're only young, don't rush to label yourself.