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compliments vs. attraction

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by denise1234, Jul 23, 2013.

  1. denise1234

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    I have a random question...

    Even though I know I'm not sexually/emotionally attracted to men, is it normal to enjoy the fact they like you/find you attractive? It kinda makes me feel bad like that I enjoy it? It's like I enjoy knowing that they think I'm good-looking, it's flattering (it makes me feel good about myself) even though I definitely do not want anything to come of it...

    does this mean I like men?

    -d
     
  2. Krilky

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    I know how you feel!
    My problem is that no women would ever find me attractive (or men for that matter). :frowning2:
    But it would definitely raise my self-esteem. It would give me the feeling that people want me to exist, which is something I never really feel. So I would like it a lot.
    If you're complimented in any way, whether the person complimenting you intends for you to know or not, it makes you feel good.
     
  3. iHateThinking

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    You said you weren't sexually or romantically attracted to them and you wouldn't want anything to come of said compliments, so I think that pretty much answers the question. I think everyone likes to be complimented, irregardless of who it is. Compliments make you feel good.

    Personally, when guys compliment me about anything I thank them, albeit feeling a bit awkward; but if a girl were to do the same thing I might get flustered and nervous, but also pretty darn happy.

    Hopefully this helps a bit. :slight_smile: