Hello, I want to start off with the fact I am 13. I recently had my hormones kick in, and its been causing me stress. I've been watching porn ever since this happened. It was just straight, and lesbian, and now I've added gay. I typically watch straight, but recently it hasn't been getting me off as much as gay. So, I watched gay. I feel as if maybe I may be denying the fact I am. Or that it is a phase. I've searched online, and people have said they've been through phases like that. Also, I should add the fact I am not disgusted by woman. When I look at girls though, I don't say she's hot, or anything like that. Any girls I talk to I usually end up liking because they seem nice and I notice they look nice at that point. I'm just confused, I wouldn't want a relationship with a man, I would only date a girl. Everything is just so confusing, and personally not that I have anything against gays, but my parents would Probably hate me if I were gay. I do have a feeling it's a phase, because most times I try to only watch straight porn, and I still enjoy it. I've only had dreams about me having sex with woman. 2 dreams to be exact. I'm just confused, but I really don't think I'd ever want to have a relationship with a dude. As a matter of fact, I'm so confused, it's hard to tell what I want. Anyways, long story short I need help.:help: thanks.
As is said in most porn-related threads, porn isn't necessarily a good indicator of sexuality. With that aside, you could very well be in denial in the sense of the fact that you don't want a relationship with a dude, I know I had those exact feelings when I first started watching gay. On the other hand, it could just be getting you off better than other porn due to the fact that you're not that used to it yet. There's also the possibility that you're bi - only time can tell. Sorry if that's not very helpful, but that's all I've got.
Hi, you know, nobody can tell you who you are. This is up to you. Do you really need a label? Isn't it enough to know that you like all kinds of porn and want to date a girl? It is important to know what makes you happy not to fit in a given category. Don't stress about the labels. Look for a person who can be a good friend to you, a girl or a boy, that doesn't matter. Some people come out to themselves at forty or later, it is ok to be confused at 14 Try to be happy. There is no need to fit in any category *hug*
If your saying that you don't want a relationship with a guy and having dreams about having sex with a woman you could be possible straight and just curious... But sooner or later you'll get to know yourself well. I myself said the same things too "I don't want a relationship with a guy." I can't also tell if a woman is hot in the first sight.. But I can appreciate beauty of other women.. But for my bisexuality I'm really into guys more -_-. And if your planning to change your sexuality. That's impossible. Sexuality is something that you cannot change and it is a part of your personality. Just be yourself,do things that makes you happy and makes you comfortable anyway we have the same age. But for your case its not severe compared to mine which is severe and I already discovered that I could be gay since I was still young.
Since you are 13. I would say that it is too early to put a label to your orientation. Give it time. 4-7 years from now you could be the complete opposite that you were expecting.
