Is it normal to still have bouts of self-doubt about your sexuality, even after coming to terms with it? Am I just not quite there yet? :bang:
Only speaking for myself here... but I've never doubted it once I fully came to terms with it. That was... almost 3 whole years ago.
Actually, I think I just answered this question myself. I was just on Tumblr and came across a blog of porn and stuff and got really turned on with entries on cunnilingus. But then, as I kept scrolling I came across of mostly penis-centered gifs, and I was like, "Run away! Run away! Oh God, keep scrolling! AHHH!!" Needless to say, it killed my vibe. :/ Blech. After that little experience, I am much more confident about my sexuality. But hey, you guys are still welcome to comment!
I'm pretty sure that I am gay even though sometimes, I struggle with being different. If there's some self doubt there then maybe you should try to find the root cause of these feelings. Self doubt is generally a lack of confidence within yourself, which a lot of us experience occasionally. If anything, I'd go with my gut if I were you as it usually leads us in the right direction.
I think it's pretty normal. Even a year and a half after realizing I had a crush on a girl, I still doubt what my sexual and romantic orientations are. It seems that some people's orientations are more obvious than others. Also, not being attracted to penises isn't the same thing as not being attracted to men. There are men who don't have them, and women who do. There are straight women who don't like them, and straight men who do. Edit: Not to say that you are attracted to men (I don't see any indication of that), but it is something to keep in mind.
The only debate is if I am 100% gay or a little bi because I can get emotionally attached to woman even if physically I am unresponsive
I'm currently going through that doubt phase myself. Am starting to wonder if I'm bisexual, biromantic, or sexually fluid, even though nearly all of my crushes thus far have been female (from what I can remember). I even rediscovered an old celebrity crush, who is also a female. But before I was totally secure in it. Go figure. :dry: I agree with Pink about the lack of self-confidence, because that's how I feel right now. When I was secure in myself I was on top of the world and never questioned it. Now it's a constant mental battle. I've never been with a guy, but have been with two girls, I feel like that's part of my conflict. Plus I got broken up with two weeks ago, which has aided in lowering my self-esteem. Even though someone asked me "How would you know if you've never been with a guy before?" and I was about ready to put his head through the wall, I'm now questioning it.
Doubt normal? Yeah, sure is, but I think it is more linked to how confident you are rather than how accepting you are of your sexuality. Also, is there a need to label yourself?
