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Not really quite sure

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Geek, Aug 6, 2013.

  1. Geek

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    Okay so to start off, I didn't really know what "Gay' was until I was in 6th grade. I thought it was an alternative to the word stupid. (Thanks mainstream stuff that made "gay" == "stupid"). Anyways I only started watching gay porn around two years ago. Before that I can't ever recall watching much straight porn. Anyways, now days I watch twink exclusively. Up until now I've always figured that it was just a phase and over the summer I realized it might not be.

    I've only had crushes on girls in the past. I had a crush on a girl for about 4 years before and I went to prom with her in May and she flat out said "we're just friends, you're like by brother" and "I knew you liked me the entire time". I went out with a girl but we weren't really "OMG let's make it facebook official" kind of thing. We went out but we weren't like boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Anyways as of lately, I realized that sex with a girl in terms of porn or IRL sounds just flat out nasty but I would date a girl. The opposite goes with guys. I only watch gay porn and only have gay fantasys but can't actually see me ever having anal with a guy or dating a guy.

    I don't really "check someone out" ever as of this summer. Occasionally I'll think "oh he's cute" or "oh she's cute" and then i'll forget about it.

    Am I just flat out gay & in denial, flat out bi, romantically straight and sexually gay thus bi, Romantically bi and sexually asexual. What's the deal! I'm confused!
     
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    Okay. Think about this. What gender would you get in bed with? Male or female? I don't think your sexual orientation should mean anymore than that. You can kiss and hug and cuddle with just about anyone. But the bedroom is probably what it all comes down to. Think about it. Only you can decide for yourself. c: By my current observations, I'd consider you bisexual to some extent. But take some time to actually think about that up there. You may surprise yourself.
     
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    I think you need to lay off the porn. I actually wrote a massive blog about it yesterday. Porn is really damaging to things like this. Porn is not an accurate way to determine sexuality. Neither is sex really. It plays a relatively big part but if you think about it on an emotional, who do I want to spend my life with basis. That's what matters. No one can give you answers but yourself. The question is often the answer.
     
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    By that logic, romantic orientation and sexual orientation are the same, and really; talking to everyone else on this site, that may NOT be true. In fact; I doubt it is true, basically OP, who would you rather have sex with? Male? Female? Bigendered? Agendered? What?
     
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    Like I cant see myself really have sex with either gender. In terms of purely fantasy a guy but I could never see myself going through with that. Maybe i'm too young to tell?:bang:
     
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    No... in fact; that sounds rather Asexual. But only time will tell; I recommend trying your everyday attractions.
     
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    Just to touch on one thing you mention:

    Not all gay guys (or bi guys presumably) are into anal sex. Some like it lots, some actively dislike it lots, and some are in-between to varying degrees. There is also a school of thought that says that the definition of 'sex' is vastly broader than just the penetrative kind (otherwise, lesbians would never or almost never have sex). In other words, if you're doing something with another person with the possibility/intent that one or both of you could or should get an orgasm out of it, then that counts as sex. Exactly what act you're engaging in is unimportant.

    Just another thing to consider perhaps.

    Todd
     
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    Yeah anal and vaginal disgust me. So am I Bi-Romantic, Emotionally Straight, and mainly asexual with a bit of bisexual with a preference of homosexual ? This is why I think it's lame for societies to make people associate themselves with a label. Like not that it's anyone's business but i'm someone people just assume i'm gay by the way i'm talk. I get asked all the time if i'm LGBT without talking about homosexual stuff. What label should I stick to just so that way people don't get confused? I don't like the word "queer" because people just think that just means gay. UGH!
     
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    Any other help here? I'm still confused what label to associate myself with.