I'm think I'm bisexual because I enjoy gay porn and erotica. I'm also occasionally attracted to guys walking down the street. I'm usually attracted to girls so I'm definitely nowhere near being straight. I hate getting male attention especially when guys flirt with me or act romantic. It's just so disgusting to me. I once had a boyfriend and I enjoyed being friends with him, but I hated kissing or being romantic. I just want to be a lesbian! I have come out as bisexual before, but people were pressuring me to date guys and I hate dating guys! I doubt people will take my same sex relationships seriously if they knew I had an "option" to date guys.
Porn doesn't really mean anything... there are quite a few lesbians I have read about here that are aroused by gay porn&erotica but if you feel nothing for guys and have no romantic interest in them you're probably a lesbian. I mean you said it yourself: "I hate dating guys!" Is a pretty good indicator in my opinion :lol:
Let me tell you something ---------- Post added 9th Aug 2013 at 09:00 PM ---------- You might be a bisexual, but if you want to date only girls then do it. Its nothing wrong with this in my opinion ---------- Post added 9th Aug 2013 at 09:03 PM ---------- I am trying to say that if you are bisexual then it does not mean that you have to be with both genders. It only means that you CAN but DON'T HAVE TO be with both genders
Hey I would label myself gay but if I walk down the street I still look at guys. I think it is more of a I think he is more attractive than him, or if I was straight I would date a guy like that. I think sexuality is such a complicated topic, but I think you can be gay and still appreciate the opposite sex.
Maybe you're bisexual, but homoromantic? Like, do you feel sexually attracted to men, or just think "Hey, he's sorta hot"?
I do occasionally feel sexually attracted to guys. I once had a bit of a crush on a male teacher, that was the closest I've been to feeling romantically attracted to a guy. He wasn't my type physically, but he was very smart and since he was a teacher he never hit on me or anything.
Real attraction can be based on things like power, attitude, intelligence, and showing interest in you. The first two are part of the reason some lesbians like gay male porn. Also, I agree with what others here said about responding to physical attractiveness as not necessarily meaning anything more than appreciating the image.
it is... well in my books anyways. i can still look at guys and be like 'hes cute' just like i can see a dog and think 'aw that dog is cute' but i dont want to date them i can just tell when someone is appealing to me. just like straight girls can think another girl is pretty. doesnt mean anything at all whereas girls i think they are cute and check them out haha.
First, I would argue with you when you say you want to be a lesbian. You do not. None of us want to be gay. We get made fun of and we are objucts of physical harm (gay bashing). You may be attracted to women. That is okay. But stating that you WANT to be a lesbian I do not buy. I am gay. I do not want to be gay. I act st8 but i have an attraction to men. I am now living a gay lifestyle.
^my thoughts in clearer format In the end it's whatever you are comfortable with. It you want to be/label as lesbian do it! ---------- Post added 11th Aug 2013 at 01:53 AM ---------- Also crickett, I don't believe that DevilKisses was insinuating in anyway that she was choosing or wishing to be an object of physical harm as you put it. Also I would like to point out that how you feel (not wanting to be/liking being gay) is not necessarily how someone else feels. Sorry, your post just came across as harsh to me :icon_sad:
I was saying I want to be one thing or another even if it means being a lesbian. When I was twelve I wanted to be straight. Right now I want to be a lesbian because it would be waaaaaay easier to explain my sexuality to people if I was. My city is pretty gay friendly, so I've never experienced any gay bashing. I also look pretty feminine, so no one can really tell I'm not straight. The problem with this is that no one really takes my sexuality seriously. When I was out as "bi" I think most people thought it was phase. It's way easier to be in the closet and tell people "I'm not that into guys" if people start talking about guys too much.
I can definitely relate to your situation. I do feel attracted to men in some way, but as soon as I start thinking about having a relationship with a guy, I start wishing I were fully, exclusively attracted to women. I don't want to be with a guy. Even when I think of guys I've had "crushes" on, I still can't see myself wanting a relationship with any of them. My approach is basically what mpw94 said: if I want to be with women only, then there's no reason why I can't be with just women. Even if I'm attracted to men, if I have no desire to act on it, I don't have to. Personally, I take issue with statements like this. I actually do want to be queer. If I were given the option to be completely straight/cis, I would decline it. I like that I want a romantic relationship with a woman, and only with a woman. I like that my gender isn't fully female. Yes, it means life will be harder. However, for me, personally, that is an acceptable price to pay. I'm not saying that you have to want to be gay. But I do ask that you recognize that there are those of us who feel differently.
