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Starting to hate labels. Trying to find my place. "Queer"?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Dryad, Aug 10, 2013.

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  1. Dryad

    Dryad
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    Hello, again...
    Well, lately I've been feeling more comfortable about my orientation, but I can't label myself. I think like guys, but also some girls, especially boyish ones, personality matters to me more than gender, I have mainly lesbian fantasies and sex dreams but have only done some things with a boy (but didn't really enjoy it) and seen more romantic dreams with boys. I can't speak for sure due to lack of experience.
    I may be heterosexual, asexual, bisexual, demisexual, heteroromantic, pansexual, lesbian... and the list goes on forever. Maybe I won't get any chance, in the near future, to experiment. Maybe I will continue living as an ever questioning heterosexual (or "heteroflexible" or "bi-curious" or...). Maybe I will actually get with a girl, but even then I don't have a clue what the outcome will be. I may like it, I may not. (I don't like the idea of "experimenting" on another person, either, I'm afraid of hurting someone :tears:slight_smile:
    The thing is, I was always very supportive of LGBT rights and I would like to participate actively in the queer community. I'm also a feminist, I challenge traditional gender roles in my everyday life and I see gender as a non-binary thing. I could not be a "girly girl" ever (not that it would be bad to be feminine, I just feel more comfortable with a more "tomboyish" lifestyle), and friends get mad at me for behaving "like a boy". I could say I feel "queer", if "queer" means "strange", "weird" when it comes to gender and relationship issues but I'm not sure if I belong to the LGBT people. I don't know if I should "join the movement" as "queer" or as a "straight ally" at least for now.
    I don't feel straight and I don't know if I'm queer, because people give different meanings to this word and I'm not sure about my sexual orientation.
    Labeling can be hard. :dry:
     
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  2. Jojo1189

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    You sound bi, but preferring guys. Labelling can be really hard. While you're still not 100% sure, you could just call yourself queer. But as people always say, you don't have to label yourself. Be comfortable with who you are first, try to find a way to experiment, and when you've explored all aspects of it, then try label yourself. Hope that helped. :slight_smile:
     
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  3. Dryad

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    I think so too. At least in a romantic way. In a sexual... Guessing fron my fantasies, i'd say girls. Ah...
    Guessing from experience, I'm asexual. Difficult to label yourself, indeed. :frowning2:
    At least I know it's not a "phase" since I feel this way for years.
    Anyway, thanks for the reply.:slight_smile:
     
    #3 Dryad, Aug 10, 2013
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