Uh, well, I don't know where to start exactly. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for about two years. He wants to have sex with me, but I can never seem to get turned on by him. I want to have sex with him too, but my body just doesn't seem to, I guess. I took a quiz online. And I know this is stupid, but it said I was asexual and I was sorta sad about that. I really want to be a sexual person and I want to have sex. I have had sexual experiences with a girl before, and I don't remember it being amazing, but I didn't hate it either. It felt good and I liked it, I guess. But I was going through a lot at the time and I was really stressed and I don't even know what happened. Since that time, no guy or girl has been able to really turn me on. I mean, I can look at a guy or girl and think that they're attractive and wonder what it would be like to have sex with then but I feel no strong sexual desire. I don't um, masturbate or anything because for me there is no point. I really don't ever get horny. I am emotionally attracted to both guys and girl and I genuinely do love the guy I am with. I have crushes on other people, but he doesn't mind and mostly seems to ignore that. I just want to know if I will ever be able to get intimate with somebody: guy or girl again. I'm sorry if this offended anyone and I really don't know exactly what I am saying or thinking or if this makes sense because it sure doesn't make sense to me. If anyone could maybe help me get a grip on what's going on with me and help me find a way to sort all of this out though, I would really appreciate it... Thank you... ---------- Post added 12th Aug 2013 at 03:51 AM ---------- I read something about being biromantic. Maybe that fits?
I'm only emotionally attracted to females, and sometimes but not always to guys. I can get turned on by girls it just takes more out of me... I thought I used to be physically attracted to girls but all I can speak for is right now. I've accepted the possibility of being gay, by pretty much being gay, but at a lot of times its gross and not of interest since I've accepted it... Taboo factor? Either or I feel more at peace and after accepting being gay, I've grown into Anyways, maybe someone like you, Could benefit from watching a porno or two on the internet n see if any fetishes turn you on. Also do you like the idea of being pumped by a man and cummed into? Reading that did it turn you on at all?
I've tried many times watching that stuff on the internet and it has no effect on me. And no, reading that did not turn me on.
Okay well, its simple. Its either your lying to yourself and me, and if you watched female porn you would genuinely get turned on. Or your really only emotionally available. I would stick to emotional sex, think of things like being in his arms, n such. I think being emotionally attached to a gender but not physically to a gender or another is rare, I would suggest using physical means to getting turned on if visual doesn't do nothing.. rely on touch,
Give your body some time. You are still young and your hormones are still adjusting. When I was younger I didn't get "turned on" but I was attracted to people. I didn't have sex until I was 20 and even then it wasn't really what I wanted. It took several years of just getting through sex until I was comfortable with it, and with myself. Now I have a very high sex drive and enjoy sex with men, and women, very much. It doesn't mean that you have to be "asexual" or that there is something "wrong" with you. It just means your body isn't ready yet, and that's okay. Try not to stress over it. Tell your man you aren't ready yet. He should be happy to wait until you are. (*hug*) ---------- Post added 12th Aug 2013 at 08:24 AM ---------- Also don't listen to Lowkey if porn, or reading doesn't turn you on. Porn has never and still does nothing for me, and reading Lowkey's post certainly didn't do anything for me. In fact porn has the opposite effect on me. That doesn't mean I'm lying or only emotionally available. In fact I would recommend NOT watching porn. It doesn't give a realistic view on sex, let alone relationships, and sexuality!
