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please help. am I gay? straight? bi? so confused! !

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by anonymous12, Aug 16, 2013.

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  1. anonymous12

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    Hi im a 15 year old boy and my whole life for as far back as I can remember I was always attracted to girls romantically/sexually (in puberty). I have had deep romantic feelings for past girlfriends/crushes but have not done anything with a girl. I have all male friends and havent had trouble fitting in. I am not interested in sports and im very conscious about my appearance. But as I was saying always been attracted to gorls but recently ive been having certain fantasies towars0ds boys that have gone from something I rarely thought about/masturbated over to somehing quite sexual. At the moment gaymporn turns me on mkre than girls do but this has happened over the last week/few weeks. Where as before straight porn/the thought of girls turned me on so much and I bloody loved it but now it doesn't have the same effect (as I said earlier this has happened over the last week) I dont want a relationship with boys its just more fantasy than anything and I dont think I would do anything with a boy. Soplease help me, im so worried/confused. How can I go from loving girls in every way my whole life to this? Before the prospect of me being gay actually made me laugh as I thought it impossible! So please help.:bang: :tears:
     
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  2. RainbowMan

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    This thread was stuck in moderation. It's approved now, so bumping it for visibility.
     
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    In your post you mentioned two main things that screams straight or at lest not gay: 1) you mention you were always sexually and romantically attracted to girls 2) you can't see yourself in a relationship with a guy let alone do anything with him. My guess? simply curious
     
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    ^ seems right in my opinion too.
     
    #4 Kamina, Aug 16, 2013
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    This is completely normal. Especially in the teen years.
     
    #5 coreyl13, Aug 16, 2013
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    Gay is more than where you stick your penis. If you are attracted to a guy, or want to have a realtionship with a guy, the whole works - visions of settling in with each other, cuddling hugging, having a couple of dogs together, working at building an 'us' with a guy - chances are you are gay -

    Now if you see all of that stuff with a girl - chances are you are straight.

    If you can see yourself doing all of that other stuff with either gender chances are you are bi.

    Homosexuality, Heterosexuality and Bisexuality have little emphasis on the sex in their name - sex is only part of the equation.

    Porn is not a good measure of love, commitment, romance, dedication - its an excellent measure of sex - but being a whole human being there will be more to any relationship than just sex... love, commitment, romance, dedication... etc.

    So What is the ideal gender you can give or want to give love, commitment, romance, dedication... etc. to?

    THAT will tell you where you are sexually.

    BTW - many 'straight' guys can 'jack-off' to anything that is sexual. Its just sex. Sure few admit it, but many can and some actually do it a bit more.
     
    #6 Elf Wynd, Aug 16, 2013
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