Hello everyone! I have posted on here before, but really needing some neutral opinions on my situation. I am a 32 year old male, happily married to a conservative, but fairly open minded woman. For the last 10 years or so, basically since my college days..I have had an intense curiosity to perform various sexual acts with men..or be a bottom basically. However, I have no interest in a romantic relationship with a man..just very obssessively curious about the sex. I have never acted on any of my urges, with the exception of pornography and sex toys. I have had chances but been way too scared to follow through, fearing I could really be gay and afraid to admit it. I must say however, that I love women..always have and always will. Very attracted both physically and emotionally. My problem is that I feel this constant need to get peoples opinion on my sexuality. Basically I always wonder if people think I am bisexual or gay..including my spouse. When I talk to mutual female friends or family members..I feel the need to ask them about it. It has come back to produce some unpleasent results as a couple of our mutual friends refuse to speak to us anymore. However, I have learned they are quite fake as it is. Part of me wonders what my wife thinks, or wonders. We have had a short discussion in the past about it..but I am not sure if she believed me..or thought I was joking around. Any help or comments would be appreciated!
Well, have you asked your wife if she'd consider a threesome with another male? And if you are gay, although it's part of who you are, so is your wife - if she's your soulmate then that's really important too. Do you enjoy sex with your wife? If so thenthere's a chance you're not exclusively gay - it may be that if you were to have sex with a man and enjoy it then you'd prefer one over the other, or enjoy both equally, which could mean you're gay, straight or bi. Thing is, humans are way more complex than "which sex do you prefer?" - the emotional aspects, I think, are hugely important too. Hm, maybe what you two could do is pretend that she's a guy?
Well, I enjoy the sex yes..but have a very hard time reaching orgasm. Shes pretty shy in the sex department, so i highly doubt she would. My problem is now that I have spoken to so many female friends and family..its back firing big time.
Well, if you've an enjoyable sex life and are in love with your wife then that's fantastic. Do you reach orgasm when you masturbate/think of (sex with) men more easily?
You are not bi if you just like anal penetration from time to time or are just curious about that. You can enjoy that in your current relation if you have her using the toys or even a strap on. Why don´t you talk about that with your wife? You could be bi sexual, but from what you say here, it doesn´t sound like it. It sounds like you have a lot to explore with your wife yet. Both in bed and in normal conversation.
Yes, he does. True. But it still doesn´t sound "bi" to me. I believe most men don´t mind having some sexual act with other guys. But that doesn´t make one bi. I wouldn´t know the definition of what would, but I should think it goes beyond having sex. Since people that never have sex or haven´t had sex yet, can still know for a fact they are gay or bi... I also know for a fact there are plenty of straight guys that have sex with other guys, but still know for a fact they are straight. There is an article about it that I posted when it was discussed in another topic, maby I can find it. it might be helpful. Anyway I´m not saying he is not, he can be, but to me he doesn´t sound like he is bi. He should invest in his relationship more before he decides it doesn´t work because he wants guys(too). This is an article about it (but not the one I posted before) This is the article I posted before There are quite a few to be found on the subject. Anyway, greenthumb95, coming out doesn´t seem like a good idea yet. You can lose friends and your partner over it, while you´re not even sure. Unless you think it´s worthwile. In that case I should think you ARE bi. And it doesn´t matter what others say, and if you lose everything and everybody, you just want to be able to yourself...
I don't know Boyfriend, I know what you mean - to be "properly" bi, maybe you'd need to be open to relationships with both genders as well as sex, but I think if you're sexually or romantically attracted to both genders, even if it's in different ways, then you can identify as bi.
Well regardless of whether your desire is to be sexual with a man or a woman you are married. So in either case if you acted on it you would be cheating, unless your wife is open enough to have an open relationship. When you told her she probably didn't want to believe you because she just didn't want to accept it and would rather pretend you hadn't said it than address it. You might just be bi-curious, you might enjoy it and realize that you like sex with both men and women but if you are in a monogomous marriage then obviously you can't act on it. I'm not one to judge so if you do find out that you enjoy sex with a men and want to be free to have sex with both men and women (or just your wife) it's definitely something you will need to tell her eventually. I hope this helps a little!
Personally, I think that you are bisexual, although I am biased Unfortunately for you, you are only just realising this now. Although you love your wife, you never had the chance to experiment with both sexes before you got married, and get the whole curiosity thing out of your system - therefore you now feel as if you desperately want this (?), even though you plan on staying committed to your wife (?). Being bisexual means that you can still have a fulfilling relationship with one gender (your wife) even though you are still attracted sexually to another gender - just as you feel sexual attraction (maybe) to other women even though you are married.
