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straight but confused?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by confusedguy12, Aug 31, 2013.

  1. confusedguy12

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    Basically , I consider myself straight - well I think I do. I like girls , I watch straight porn. ,get turned on by girls and been in a few relationships. I have 5 close guy friends who I hang around with , all of whom are straight. It started about a year ago and I would always want to hang around with one of them more than the others - we'll call him dean. I'd do anything to hang around with him but didn't have any romantic or sexual feelings so I thought that I thought he was just cool I suppose. About a month into this I started noticing things about him and began to think he was attractive , these feeling got progressively worse and once I even masturbated over him. Its been about a year now and I always think about him still and I don't understand why I feel this way . Iv never been sexually or romantically attracted to a guy before and I'm not even sure If I would act on these feelings if given the chance.I still find girls attractive and still watch straight porn and things but I'm confused due to this , so I need to know . Would you consider me bisexual? Can you be straight with an exception or is this just a fantasy? I wouldn't tell him as it would ruin our friendship and I am basically best mates with him now
     
  2. TrenchCoat

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    Sexuality is a fluid thing and I personally don't believe that anyone is ever 100% straight or 100% gay. You are what you consider yourself. You can indeed be straight with an exception, or you may discover later you are bi.
     
  3. catgoturtongue

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    Many people would think you're bisexual and you're discovering it now.

    But I wouldn't go so far.

    I think it's just a momentaneous crush. You have fantasies with him. Being bisexual is a lot more than that. Being bisexual myself, I feel really horny by guys as with girls. There's a balance between both of them. If you feel attracted more to women, you cannot be called bisexual.

    He is the first and only guy you've been attracted to right? Try watch some gay porn. It doesn't need necessarily sex, just pictures of naked and built guys. If you get hard watching them, you may be bisexual. You can't be bi liking only one guy. Maybe is just a moment thing.

    Moreover, it must be just his company. Is he an awesome friend? He is a good company, makes you laugh and stuff? Because when a friend is too good, we may fall for them.

    As I said before, try watching some guys. If they make you hard, you're bi. If your friend keep being the only guy you felt something for, you're not. In case you are, don't freak out. You were just born this way and one of the main rules to live well is respecting yourself.

    But remember. There is a huge chance of just being a moment thing.
     
  4. TrenchCoat

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    Woah there, catgoturtongue. You can be bisexual and still have a preference. Everyone is different. Some people are bi and have a preference for women, some men, it doesn't mean that they are not bi because they are not completely balanced.

    Moreover, watching porn does not represent your orientation. I am female-bodied and am in a relationship with a woman and do not find lesbian porn enticing at all.
    Not only that, but many straight men find lesbian porn enjoyable. Does that make them secretly lesbians?

    Porn is not the answer to your orientation :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:


    confusedguy12, you may be bisexual, you may not be. There are always exceptions to the rule and as I said, sexuality is fluid. Don't worry about it though, you'll figure your self out in time :slight_smile:
     
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    You can label yourself however you want. You can also choose not to label yourself at all. Some people say that you should only label yourself bi if you go equally for guys and girls; others believe that if you think you have the capacity to love people of both genders, then you should label yourself as bi. But it's your life.

    One thing that's easy to forget is that a lot of people in heterosexual relationships have been (or still have the capacity to be) attracted to the same sex. Many people are not entirely straight.