How do I deal with having no sexual identity?

Try "Bi/Pansexual with tendencies towards <insert person type here> ." I don't know you too well though...

And don't get all depressed ma'am! If sexuality is stressing you out, focus on something other than sex! At your age, I'm sure you have studies plus all the world to think about! Maybe a hobby, a nice tedious, mind-numbing hobby. I prefer crocheting amigurumi to get my mind off things.

 

Say you are questioning? Maybe that would help

 

Simply do not dwell on it and go with the flow of your attractions.

 

I seems to me you're more upset with not clearly understanding yourself -- i.e. "aroused randomly" -- than with the label itself. The label would increase you certainty in yourself, but the cookie-cutter label you're looking for simply does not.

You don't seem to quite know yourself; you're still young, so this is quite common. With your sexuality highly questioned, you might have to fall a bit as you learn more about yourself. But if you keep dwelling upon wanting immediate certainty, you'll just end up stressing over one problem when you have the rest of the test to take, and little time to take it. Anxiety gets one nowhere, you must keep moving, that is imperative.

 

Figuring out your sexuality may take some time and it is different for everyone. I wouldn't worry too much about it. I remember when I started questioning my sexuality. I identified as bisexual for a bit but it didn't feel like it fit right. It was only this year when I discovered the word pansexual and it all started to make sense. Some people don't label themselves and thats completely fine. So my advice would be take some time to think about it. And if you want a label, choose one that you feel fits right with you. I understand what it's like to feel depressed, I hope things get better for you. <3

 

There is no such thing as a false attraction; if there was; it would be used as an excuse to be in denial for those who cannot come out to themselves.

 

Would identifying yourself on a scale like the Kinsey scale help? I've found that very helpful myself, but I understand it's not right for everyone. Might be something to look at and consider, though.

 

Do you think you're looking at it too simplistically. There are many factors to ones sexual identity, which you seem to be confused about. Maybe you're sexually attracted many people, but romantically exclusive to females. Not sure if that terminology is all that clear/accurate.

 

Maybe make your own label, "Lesbian with false attractions." If it helps at all, you seem to want to fit into a major label that includes these "false attractions." Maybe you want to label these "false attractions" themselves and not yourself.

 

What's wrong with calling yourself a lesbian? If you are mostly attracted to women and want relationships with women it's pretty cut and dry, you're a lesbian. Not all lesbians are Kinsey 6's, in fact I'd ever say most aren't.

I mean this in the kindest gentlest way possible, so please read it that way. You've been posting this say thread for months now. I've replied to a couple of them. It seems pretty clear that you're a lesbian, so what's holding you back from accepting that? What are you afraid of?

 

Your attractions do not disappear; if they do, they would never return, they would be non-existent. That feeling of anxiety is probably due to uncertainty or discomfort or what not.

 

From the last post I'd say that your issues go way beyond sexual orientation. The fact that you're so insecure in most aspects of your life and worry so much to me shows that you may suffer from severe anxiety or another issue that could be affecting all aspects of your life. This could be why you're struggling so much with your sexual orientation. You might wish to consider getting some help to get these emotions/insecurities under control, then you might find that you don't struggle with your orientation as much. Have you thought about therapy or doctors to talk about your feelings on life in general and all your issues rather than just focusing in in the sexual orientation bit?

If you get help it may make it easier to accept yourself as lesbian/bi or straight...whatever label you want to accept. But your mind seems to be all over the place at the moment.

Good luck...I hope it gets better for you

 

DO you have sex? who do you have sex with? who do you want to have sex with?