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Reoccurring Dreams

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Tmta, Sep 11, 2013.

  1. Tmta

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    I am having reoccurring dreams about women. They confuse me because I don't know if it means that I am a lesbian. I do not have sexual desire for women in real life. When I want sex, it is with a man. When I am attracted to a man, it is more than how he looks. It is the whole package. In real life, I have been aroused by looking at pictures of naked women and naked men. Although I think I have been turned on more by women than men in porn. This has caused me to question how attracted was I really towards men.

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    I rarely have any interaction with the women in my dreams. We are not involved with any sexual activity. Most dreams I saw that other people post about involve sex). Last night, I dreamt that I was in yoga class. Two women were dressed very skimpily and were passing something to each other and were giggling. The way they were dressed and the giggling must have made me think of porn because I got turned on. (I do not have sexual feelings toward any females in my yoga class in real life.)

    I had another dream that I was looking at a crowd of people and saw a pretty woman. I looked away at the sky (I think) and felt aroused. Other dreams involved me looking at pictures of porno type women and got turned on. One time I dreamt of kissing a female coworker but did not feel anything.

    I have dreams about men but they aren't very often. I am usually involved with them. The sexual dreams about them usually turn me on and feel really nice. I had dreams where I was giving a guy oral sex, which was arousing. Other dreams involved me kissing men I know very passionately. The next day, I feel very horny and think about sex with the particular guy a lot.

    Any ideas on what these dreams mean?
     
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    Any idea on why I have arousing dreams about women more often than men? But the dreams about women usually are just about how they look and there usually is no interaction between me and the women. There is never sex. The arousal is just about how they look but there is never a desire for me to be sexual with them. My dreams about men aren't nearly as often but there is kissing and sex, which is arousing. My sexual desire is for men but it seems like I am in general more aroused by looking at women vs. men. When I see a hot guy, I usually get aroused after thinking about touching him but not just looking at him. I wondered if a woman's chest can be more arousing than a man's because breasts have been more sexualized by society. A man can be topless going for a run, but a woman cannot do that. A man can be topless at any pool or beach. A man can be topless in many non-sexual contexts, so the sight of a topless guy won't necessarily turn me on unless it is a particular guy that I am attracted to. Aside from changing my clothes, showering, or medical exam, sex would involve me taking my top off. Breasts have a strong sexual context. They can be arousing to look at but I don't want to have sex with a woman. Does any of this make sense.
     
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    Well I'm no dream expert and I don't know you personally, but remember that sexuality is fluid and not rigid. If you're sexually aroused by men you're at least straight, but there's compelling evidence to suggest that you're bisexual.
    "Although I think I have been turned on more by women than men in porn."
    "My sexual desire is for men but it seems like I am in general more aroused by looking at women vs. men"

    I think over time and experiences you'll figure out to what extent you swing the other way. Keep in mind that you will probably particular individuals from either gender attractive/unattractive, but they shouldn't represent the entire gender - sometimes when you're in that questioning stage, you need to clarify what you are as a whole rather than getting turned on by particular people.

    Take your time and good luck! (If that's even necessary)
     
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    It's very fluid, that's for sure. I see you identify as questioning. Your interactions and arousal when awake seem varied. I wouldn't worry about it and let it unfold IRL.

    Are these people in your dreams people that you know, or are they strangers as well? The weird thing about mine is that the same cast of characters shows up in my dreams every month or two. It would be interesting if the people in your dreams had a particular meaning to you ... or if they were random people.