In the past, I was always attracted to woman, I don't think I ever thought about men, I was always thinking about woman, even at a young age older woman really turned me on, I don't really find girls my age attractive they seem immature. I don't like younger men either, have never liked skinny young men, they just aren't manly enough for me. Only in the last two years have I fallen in love with this older guy, he is interested in me also, I'm 19 by the way. He is a Greek bear and is 70 years old. He looks like the Greek Singer Pasxalis Terzis. I didn't meet my Dad until I was 18 so I think this is the reason why i'm interested in him. So basically my question is; have I always been bisexual or has this man turned me gay? I haven't really thought about woman since I met this guy. He is everything to me, I dream of cuddling up to his hairy bear belly before bed. I think the main reason that I'm not getting a girlfriend is because I'm not attracted to young girls but i'm not sure if I'd like it or not, I don't think I will find an older bear that likes a young guy, is this common?
sexuality is fluid. sometimes somebody who's always assumed they had one orientation meets a person that they love who challenges those assumptions. orientations are really just approximations we use to help describe ourselves to others. if you love this older man - be with him! don't worry too much about the labels, though you will probably have to think about how you want to identify now, either as gay or bisexual. given that i assume you have enjoyed sex with women, bisexual would probably be the most realistic fit, but see what works for you, and don't overthink it too much!
I don't think anyone can 'turn' you anything. All someone can do is help you see something that you didn't see before. A) please for the love of god be careful. I know you've heard it before but there are plenty of terrible influences out there and I would honestly suggest exploring more around your age group. I know you don't see yourself being interested but I just think it would be wise to explore a demographic that doesn't have a massive advantage over you before you start getting involved with one that does. B) I think you've probably always been some kind of bisexual or some other variation of mixed sexuality. That's okay. You're wise to wonder if "Daddy issues" might be a source of confusion for you. C) I have no issue with what goes on between two consenting adults. Just make sure you're no being possessed and brain washed.
Nobody can turn someone gay. They can only make you realize the boundaries weren't where you thought they were. Lex
