Gay, cuddling with straight girl

They wouldn't really be gay, then, would they? I mean, sexuality can be more nuanced, but... at a glance, I don't see how they'd get an erection and be aroused merely from cuddling with a girl if they were gay.

 

Do you find girls sexually attractive? That's one question you should ask yourself first.

 

Well, you may not be gay, but you could still be attracted to guys, as well as girls, as well as those outside the gender binary. Do you think you're attracted to guys? What about girls? Starting there might help. If you told us some more, we could help you explore these thoughts.

 

I would not put too much meaning into porn if I were you.
When I look at a guy I like, I just don't feel physical feelings. I also feel emotional feelings which are stronger than the physical ones.

 

You do realize sexual arousal can be seen as a automated reflex as a result of nerve stimulation, right? It wouldn't be too far of a stretch to say that it's possible to be a gay male and be aroused by being with a straight girl considering how the parts respond. The ability to feel sexual arousal and generate it seriously have nothing to do with sexuality. Even asexuals have functioning parts.

 

I would say a guy who likes spooning with girls isn't 100% gay, but could still comfortably identify as gay if they don't want to go any farther and don't want a relationship with one.

 

You sound straight to me. With the information you've given, you aren't aroused by men except in porn and you aren't romantically attached to them at all.

However you are aroused by women so no you are definitely not gay.

 

If you get horny by spooning with girls, you're not gay.

"Im just questioning my orientation because sometimes i go limp with my girl in missionary"
Don't forget that sometimes you just may not be attracted to somebody, it doesn't mean you're gay.

"K. so i guess im not gay then..."
What kind of things made you assume you were gay?
Don't forget the bisexual category - I think you should be looking for answers from bisexuals. Gay men/women are defined as such because they have feelings for the same gender. It is not rigid, but it is definitely predominant.

 

yes i have. i think guys in denial who are married experience the same thing. sometimes they dont even know.

if a girl touches me or anyone in a cuddling way i will get hard. which one i prefer, like which one do i feel like gives me dick a racing bikes torque is a guy.

 

I can't exactly answer your question because I'm not a gay man, but I will say that I consider myself to be closer to a lesbian than straight, and I was aroused by men at some point in my life. The physical connection was there, and I could get aroused and even have sex with them. I didn't enjoy it as much as I do with women, but I could do it.

 

Lmao. I like this guy.

Yeah, dude. It's called bisexual. I've never been with a guy myself, but there are things that I like as 'ideas' when I watch it. For instance, I like watching masturbating and oral. I don't care for penetrative.

Girls still turn me on. But they have to be the right girl. Just like I imagine they would have to be the right guy.

It's a hard thing to question because one would think they should like one or the other...or everything about gay sex or everything about straight sex. Sex is a buffet. Choose what you want and eat it.

 

i think alot of us are missing the OP's point. its easy to label something, its identifying what he is 'feeling' that can be hard, in other words, identifying 'with'

as i stated earlier, i can get erect with girls, but does it make me bi-sexual if i dont 'really' enjoy it?
or
if its not giving me a happyness type of high, but i can still get erect does that mean im bisexual? No i dont think it does.

i think thats where the line is drawn, is whether or not you feel 'alive', whether or not you feel like your trying to hard to please someone because your not pleasing yourself and your trying to live up to an expectation you set for yourself. you need to actually enjoy it, and chances are if your not enjoying it like you see other guys saying how they enjoy it, and you feel like you can't relate, then your not really into it.

it COULD be the person of course - but usually you'll still find some sort of attraction n notice it, it will just be 'real'

i feel like its possible to NOT HAVE ANY EXPECTATIONS with someone or attraction at first, n then over-time the bond will increase, n then maybe, just maybe it will trigger something of a real emotion in the love' realm for that person and trigger some physical desire. i think this is very well possible. they call this pansexuality, i think given the right circumstances, like i posted its plausible for Alot of people. but i only see this being possible after you've accepted being gay, and see yourself in a more 'stable' light, then you can branch out some hidden emotions which were put on hold because you were so stressed about the topic.