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Is it possible to turn gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by BearLover, Sep 22, 2013.

  1. BearLover

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    I was interested in women from a young age, I can't remember being interested in men until I was in high school - around 12 or 13. I can remember being interested in a maths teacher that I had, he was an old man, I'd say around 60. I've been interested in women for my whole life but I think I've become less interested in women in the last few years, I've fell in love with my Greek boss, he is 70 years old and is a bear, I know he loves me also, we always fall out and he gets upset when I don't talk to him. Ever since I've fell in love with him, I just don't think of women anymore, I've become really confused about my sexuality, I've had lots of random fetishes. I'm not interested in young people, I'm 20 and I'm interested in people that are 70 years old, I just find that a lot of girls my age seem so stupid and they pile on the foundation which makes them unattractive. When I go out to clubs, I'm not that interested in these girls, my friends tell me to flirt with them but none of them stand out like an older man would, I wouldn't be looking at their boobs, I don't know if I'd enjoy sex with them. Whenever I see this 70 year old man at work I can't stop staring at his bum and his bulge. I've never been interested in young men, I'd prefer a young girl to a young man. I have been interested in middle age woman also, I used to watch these [removed] porn videos a few years ago but I've moved onto older greek men, I really fancy the greek singer pasxalis terzis (Google him), he looks like my boss.

    So yeah, have I turned gay? At first I thought I was straight (before 13 YO), then bisexual (after 13 YO) and now I've become less interested in women ever since I met this man at 18 YO. I can't figure out if I like young girls or not, but at the moment I prefer old men. I'd prefer to be attracted and in a relationship with a young girl because I don't think a relationship with an older man will work out, especially if he is at an age that he could just pass away. :tears:
     
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    What I've learnt is that people don't usually just turn gay, and sexuality is very fluid and can sometimes change overtime. It also takes time to develop. Some people have always known since they were very young and some realize it later in their life, it's different for everyone.
     
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    as a safeguard don't wait and rely on your orientation to change on its own.

    if anything, i think accepting this new lifestyle, would give you further grounds in seeing something in woman you had not seen before in them. but that could mean attraction without the sexual side too
     
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    Yes, attraction that isn't sexual is a frequent scenario for quite some people. Usually, these people get into a relationship but an open one since they just don't enjoy sex with their partner. However, don't define yourself too rashly since seemingly you still have no experience. Explore-though it might take some time, no experience here, though, sadly-whom you like to share sexual relationships and the outcome should be satisfying.

    Hugs, and Good Luck.