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Bisexual male?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by kidofthesky, Sep 27, 2013.

  1. kidofthesky

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    Hello, I am a 22 year old guy, finishing up my last year of college. I've been wondering I might be bisexual lately. It's very strange though, because I never think about guys, I don't check guys out. I don't find the male body attractive. In fact I'd say the only men I'm really attracted to are skinny twinks with zero body hair, and feminine faces. However for the last 10 years I've compulsively masturbated to internet pornography. It's now gotten to the point where I frequently masturbate to gay porn.

    I can be really awkward around women. I've only had sex with 2 girls my entire life. When I think about having sex with a guy, there aren't any feelings there. It's more like I just want an orifice to blow a load into. Gay men tend to be a lot more straightforward about sex, there's a lot less of the bullshit that women do. However I feel anxious because I don't want to come out as bisexual. For the sole reason that a lot of straight women won't date or even consider a bisexual guy. I'm already awkward enough around women, I don't need anything else adding to it. I don't think I'd ever date a guy. The idea sounds like a huge turn off actually. I don't have any of this "since I was a kid I knew I liked men" thing going on. I just want to get laid, and have no idea how to approach women I don't know. Plus I'm kinda a hopeless romantic anyways, and I'm in college, where people don't really date.

    Honestly at the end of the day does it matter who gives you a BJ?, as long as it's a good one?
     
  2. Split Arrows

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    First off: Welcome to EC!!!

    I'd like to first address your mention of pornography. It has been mentioned many times on here that tastes in pornographic material doesn't, necessarily, define one's sexual orientation. Take me, for example; I am definitely a 50/50 bi and I don't get turned on by gay porn at all, but that doesn't mean that I don't enjoy men and their bodies. You said that you've compulsively used internet porn as a masturbatory aid, so I'm going to assume that the majority of the time you use the porn (please correct me if I'm wrong). This being the case, it could simply be a case of porn addiction in which case you have progressed to the stage where the "regular stuff" just doesn't do it for you and now you're onto the "harder stuff".

    Secondly, I'm going to have to disagree with your assumption that "there's a lot less bullshit" when being intimate with a man vs a woman. I can say from first hand experience that that generalization doesn't hold true. I've had short-term flings with women that had no problem being friends afterward and that our time together was just for sex and on the other side I've been with men that said they wanted just to fool around and "not get serious" and then would blow up my phone for days on end. What I'm trying to get at is that you can find all levels of bullshit with any gender.

    Lastly, your comment that dating a guy is a huge turn-off for you, then it doesn't strike me that you are bi which is hard for me to say, because I'm always trying to recruit new members (jk).

    I hope this helps.