What are some things a guy might do if he's struggling with his sexuality?

Does he know you're gay? If you're very close why not ask him how he feels about you? Be honest and tell him why you're asking.

There are some stickys in this section about struggling with being gay. They may be of help.

 

if they are struggling and trying to fight against it, i'd guess they would act more rigid than usual, checking their behaviour.
or else take on the opposite behaviouu - reaction formation in the words of the great man. so may get a girlfriend, or anything that they may think makes them look gay.

although these behaviours can be interpreted in may ways. in a very crude example, you could always say 'he doesnt like <insert film here> becauuse hes scared it makes him look gay', when he may not actually like the film

 

It just depends on the person. For example, I know a girl that I *think* (I'm not 100% sure) is struggling with her sexuality. I mean, I've never heard her talk about how hot a guy is and when questioned about guys, she changes the subject. However, this isn't proof, it's just a theory.

That applies to your situation, get to know the guy a little better, drop hints about how you're okay with homo/bisexuality, and eventually come out to him. This will show him two things, one, there are people in the world who aren't homophobic idiots and two, you trusted him enough to tell him who you truly are. All in all, it will build the trust in the relationship up to an extreme amount and he might come out to you.s

 

Everyone has their own way of dealing with their attractions to other people. For some people, they express it in a "best buds" kind of way. Others are more comfortable and are willing to try more emotional and physical ways.

Either way, you can't know what your friend is feeling unless he tells you. And you can't rush him in expressing it. You can only let him know that you are his friend and that you'll accept him either way.

Or as Lex often says, "Talk to him. Not us. Him." (*hug*)

 

Joking around on the topic of being gay and the like might be good? Like talk about how gay marriage might be legalized in California and stuff like that.

 

Not really, because if he's struggling with his sexuality, and you start flirting with him (even if it is harmless) and he discovers he likes it, he could freak out.

I think you should build the trust in the relationship. Trust is one of the BIGGEST things in a relationship of any kind. If he feels he can trust you, then maybe he'll tell you he's struggling.

Trying to force his sexuality out of him will probably push him away from you.

 

Im sticking by my philosophy!

If they can't accept, aren't comfortable with or don't even know their sexuality then their not ready to come out or for a relationship.

Sorry to be so blunt