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Am I gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by UIOP, Oct 16, 2013.

  1. UIOP

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    I questioned my sexuality in August. It caused me a great deal of pain but I became comfortable with being bisexual. I thought that it was all behind me... well, apparently not :tears:

    Now, only 1 month and a bit later, I am questioning whether I am bi or I am actually gay. I don't care what the label is. I just want to know who I am. It hurts so much!

    I'll explain: I've always felt attracted to women (and more recently to guys as well). Recently, though, I realised that all my life I have only ever been attracted to one woman for perhaps a month at the most. One week I find particular girls really attractive and the next... nothing. Any little thing turns me off instantly like wearing rings on fingers other than the middle- or ring fingers, wearing formal/smart clothes, changing their make-up or hairstyle... or sometimes, just changing the colour of their nails or hair (sorry, I really don't mean to offend anyone or to appear like a horrible/judgemental person - this is unfortunately my true opinion though :icon_sad:slight_smile:.

    It's always been this way. And I've always felt this when watching pornography too. Am I just that afraid of change? Or am I just not truly attracted to women at all?

    Please help me :help:
     
  2. CheesyGoose

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    Everything I'm about to say is my own personal opinion. It's not the holy truth or anything.

    Honestly, I'd say you're more gay than bi. I'm actually sort of talking from personal experience. I mean, I felt that I was perhaps bi or something, but it was just a stage of denial for me. Seeing as you're so easily turned off by women, would greatly suggest that you are gay. It is indeed difficult to deal with, but I'm sure you can come through it. You just have to find acceptance in yourself at first, that's the most important thing. Then, if you feel that you've finally found the answer to your question, get comfortable and live life.

    I wish you the best :slight_smile: