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is there anyone els who feels this way?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Frustratedgal, Oct 22, 2013.

  1. Frustratedgal

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    Hello,
    I think I really need some helpful advise or even just someone to tell me they feel the same way. Im gonna share my life story lol. When I was younger I thought I was just like the other girls who had little crushes on the boys in class and when I finally got a boyfriend in 8th grade I liked him alot but I wouldn't kiss him. I would just hug and hold hands and have fun that way. We dated 4 months and I still never kissed him. Then I went to highschool and we broke up because I felt like I must not like him if I don't wanna kiss him right? Anyways in 9th grade I started hanging out with this girl and we became really close friends and I found myself thinking I had a crush on her. I thought there was something wrong with me but it eventually died out anyways because she moved. Then as a new semester started I had a class with one of my friends from elementary school that I haven't seen in forever and we reconnected. One day on Facebook she told me she liked me and I turned her down because I thought I don't like girls. After a while tho I started to get feelings for her and I decided to go out. We dated for 3 months and I found myself really loving her and we already were in a sexual relationship. Something happened a little while after and we broke up and a friend introduced me to a boy. I developed feelings for him and he asked me out. In this relationship there was kissing believe it or not lol but everything beyond that I did not feel like doing. I hated it actually but I felt like everyone does this stuff so I have to. I eventually lost interest and we dated for 6 months without intercourse. I felt hopeless like there was something wrong with me. A while passed and I finished highschool and this close friend of mine who is in a relationship with a guy told me she liked me and I actually had a crush on her too but she's still with her boyfriend so nothing happens. But:icon_redf:icon_redf I feel like she is just stringing me along. I moved out of province recently and we still talk but I found myself starting to like a coworker. I feel emotional for him I smile when he smiles and my heart skips when we make eye contact but I feel no sexual desire at all. There's no way he would want a sexless relationship right? Should I even bother? :icon_redf
     
  2. BookDragon

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    Some people are fine with a sexless relationship, but ignoring that guy for a moment, are YOU happy in a sexless relationship?
     
  3. ceilo

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    i had that feeling too. the feeling of you want that guy and at the same time sexless relationship. for me, having sex is required in order to have a nice and smooth relationship. there are a lot of ways to achieve that perfect relationship.
     
  4. andykm

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    I feel the same! All my life I've felt like there was somethin wrong with me! And now I know what it is but I don't want to tell anybody because I'm afraid! I have a crush on a girl :frowning2: and I'm really confused so yes I'm feeling the sama :frowning2: