I think I forced/talked myself into believing I was a lesbian...

You don't have to make a decision now, and as you know it's not always set in stone. If you think you're more sexually attracted to men then go for it, if later down the track you realize that you're sexually attracted to women as well, you can deal with it then. It's not much of an answer, but I hope it helped.

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It's normal to find other people goodlooking, we all can appreciate one another whether we are gay bi or straight, so knowing which woman is sexy or not is totally normal. The question is... Do you think you could seek out a relationship with a woman or be intimate with one?

 

I agree you don't have to make a decision right now just take your time xx

 

I think everyone who has identified as straight for most of their life will find themselves questioning whether or not they talked themselves into being bi/gay. My advice is to just keep paying attention to how you feel as most completely straight people probably would not have joined groups associated with being gay.

 

I think humans have a natural propensity to go from one extreme to another. Out of a sense or instinct of self-preservation.

I had a bad experience with some asshats who happened to be gay. As a result, I kinda let that get the better of me and felt incredibly unsafe around them and any bad behaviour I saw from gay people became really pronounced.

Being hurt forced me to an extreme position - almost like a survival mechanism. Like someone who's got bitten by a spider may end up with arachnophobia despite the fact that the majority of spiders can't really harm us.

Give yourself time, and try to find a healthy balance.

For me, that's why I'm on EC - and I'm happy to say, it's working!

 

Like everyone else is saying, give it time and just listen to how you feel. In this world, there is no 'black & white.' Trust yourself and stay strong. I hope for the best.

 

I think I forced myself into thinking that I was bisexual, and mainly attracted to men, but not so much anymore. Once I stopped trying to figure out my sexuality, everything sort of just fell into place. I allowed myself to feel whatever I was feeling, whether it was with a man or a woman. And in the end, I discovered that I can only fall in love women. Although, it took me a really long time to accept who I am; I mean every day is a struggle to be honest. So, I am going to agree with everyone else and say that you should give yourself more time to sort out your feelings.

 

you like lezbian love stories? like what? juz curious...