i think ive accepted my sexuality a whole lot, as in i can tell people honestly without givin a shit about what they think. theres just some problems i still have. i crush on guys and girls emotionally, wanting to be with them. girls seem to win, as in i cant stop thinkin of this girl, all day long for months, but i just wouldnt be able to perform sexually at the rate she would, but i think i can clear as obsessive for this woman, and its not even sexual. she just happens to be similiar and super fuckin beautiful, which in return makes me want to please her, it makes her body parts sacred instead of a super turn on, she makes me want to just cuddle with her all day. there is certainly 'mystery' feeling tho, and its this 'mystery feeling' i seem to absolutely crave it even tho it Sometimes can feel stressful so i feel like i have a form of pansexually, the more i actually know female a, the more i think of doin kinky things to female a's vagina even tho im not actually turned on by the vagina, but because its 'her vagina' it is 'satisfying, and emotional for me' , because its 'her tits' 'her ass', it does give me a boner to touch a girl but i dont feel it in my dick like i do for men. like i feel like theres a wire from my brain to my dick that pumps blood when i think of dick.. its wierd. anyways, i dont mind my gay side at all, but i still wish i had female physical attraction because its just fucking frustrating and i dont know how to deal with the stress of wanting to be with someone but bein incompatible so its just gone out the door.
I'm not sure what to say for this, but one thing that's been going round in my head every time I hear a question like this is as follows: If you love the girl but don't feel it sexually, why can't you just be good friends? That isn't advice so much as it is me having no idea what the reasons might be!
well i dated someone for two years, and like i could get hard, i could honestly cum in like 30 seconds n yeah i would get super horny around her but it felt programmed to like physical touch, thats how good my girl was at givin head and im gay, it just felt so good.. and its like, i love her altho im not with her anymore because we had problems, i wasnt satisfied entirely, but alot of times i find myself wishing she was here still, its super sad really because i would of possibly married this girl if it was a different life, it was me who had to end it and it hurts to see the other person hurt so bad, just sayin, i wish she did know i loved her in a special unique way but i dont think they believe you after you tell them..
Everyone is different... that's why I find labels limiting in a lot of ways, since you have gay people who have never felt any interest in the opposite sex whatsoever, some even disgusted at the thought of body parts or sexual acts, while others can and do feel something, enough to convince themselves that they're straight for years. A lot of people simply chalk it up to stages of "progress" in terms of self-acceptance, but it's obvious that there's a lot more to the story than just that, especially in terms to how quickly someone reaches that level, and which paths they take to get there. I can tell you at 13, sex was the last thing on my mind, I had crushes exclusively on girls, and could get aroused by almost anything.
yeah i feel that way to, like maybe hormones? when i was younger? i first kissed a girl at like 8 lol like tongue and everythin for hours also i realized something was up when i was 17 after reconnecting with an ex my first, that i sort of had a bad past with cause of her, she gave me super anxiety, but i couldn't really get hard, or enjoy sex.. i sort of stayed soft... i loved her and hated her it wasn't the same.. it was when i was 14-16 with her, which is sort of like depressing, her and my last ex are the only girls i feel like ill actually love in a romantic sense.. i get deep crushes on girls tho
Yeah, but try not to mistake arousal for attraction. I can technically get full eating something I hate, but I won't crave it like I would with one of my favorite desserts, so that "satisfaction" is still missing. A lot of older guys on EC who have experience with women and came out later in life describe the attraction for the opposite sex as a "fire cracker compared to an atom bomb" and the sexual acts as more of a "chore", to give you a clue. Technically, a few of them could be considered bisexual, with a stronger pull towards men, that didn't manifest until later in life. On the flip side, there are plenty of guys who came out as "gay" early on in life, then found out they could enjoy women as well, and switched to "bisexual". I guess the more important question now is are you still willing to date and have sexual encounters with women? The label matters less than being comfortable with yourself, in the end, and honestly, so many people have gone through the whole journey they'll tell you they've just given up on giving a name to it. I'm not sure how your situation compares to mine, but you sound like you've had a bit more experience to form an idea of how your orientation pans out, more-or-less.
I am kind of going through a similar phase bro. I believe I am ike 75-80% straight but I aint completely sure. Although I have gotten off to lesbian porn hundreds of times and I have jizzed in my pants with girls, sometimes I wonder if my "gay" side is stronger and I wont be able to satisfy the girl I am in love with....and the worst part is when you start thinking you might be gay and the boner dies mid way... Anyway that being said cumming in 30 seconds with a girl isnt exactly something a gay man would do... so go with the flow. If your need for dick, becomes overwhelming later, well you will have to make some decisions.
well the first time it took nearly 30 mins, over time i got to know her, it would be quick.. i would think of things tho my gf fuckin a guy without a face, n suckin his cock.. things like that... and then i would get off pretty quick ---------- Post added 2nd Nov 2013 at 05:21 PM ---------- also already i know i can satisfy girls in bed, have hundreds of times with my past gf's and a few others. n yeah when you start gettin anixety sbout bein gay it can be a boner kill.. i can't relate if you yourself have attraction to woman though, the reason mine gave out was because i would look at her body and appreciate it instead of 'craving it'
well i find them fuckable its just not on the same level as fuckin a guy.. but ive had limited experiences with men, also it was when i was stressing out about bein gay so i dont think i really enjoyed it to the fullest.. im goin off primarily porn though
Well then.. lets put it this way. Can you enjoy fucking a girl without thinking about something else while doing her ? How would you rate your sex experiences with women and how with men. Staying off porn can aso be a good thing...
