Is this by fantasy and/or what you feel when you're out and about? When I'm outside I feel more sexually-ish drawn to women, and find it more relaxing to talk to them but also like every woman is close to me... sorta; with men, I feel awkward and wanting to be away from them. However, I THINK I have (had) feelings for a male friend because I can treat him differently, and it's more an emotional thing. When I found out he had a girlfriend I was annoyed and hurt. Sometimes when I'm out I don't really notice women that way, and feel more bicurious. Then, when I'm by myself, I like to fantasise about the dream boyfriend - but I don't really know what that is anymore, and I wonder if I'm just deluding myself and living in my own fantasyland, since I can prefer being by myself than with people - and watching romantic movies/porn, I'm more turned on by the guy or imagine I'm the girl. However, when I first properly started masturbating, I thought of girls - not intentionally, it just happened. And watching porn for the first time I did look at the girl automatically, and after a while it was the girl that really got my attention. But sometimes when I try it while thinking of/watching guys it's good too and I feel better about it - actually, with porn etc, it really is the guy now that I like, but I hate watching porn with ugly guys. That said, I can notice good-looking guys in real life but it always seem like a bit of a fantasy. There's also something about men's eyes which I think draw you in more... women's are nice and warming to look into, though. It's really when I bring how I feel when I'm in company into my home that I wonder what I am. I can feel like different people in/away from company and when I think I'm attracted to one sex or the other. So, do you tell by life or fantasy? Or both? I also have depression and GAD so I wonder how much of my experiences are affected by those - before I got them I was pretty sure I was straight.
"Is this the real life, is this just fantasy?" Getting the obvious queen reference out of the way, I must say your post is still leavin me a bit wish-washy on something solid to support you being bi. I think you're mostly straight, only noticing how attractive other women are (and that doesn't usually mean one is attracted to them). If you had the opportunity to romance another girl, you might know for sure, but as it stands it just seems like you're straight.
I agree with this post. You might appreciate the women can be attractive, but that doesn't mean you're attracted to them. From the information in your post, I think you're straight.
LOVE the Queen reference! Tbh, I'm strongly of the opinion "to define is to limit" (ALL HAIL THE GREAT WILDE!), but it's just really confusing and I guess I want an answer so I don't feel like I'm missing something.
