I've been thinking this all over and i want to talk to you guys about what you think i am . I'm very attracted to certain types of women on the process of allure and sex appeal like Princess Aura and Dale from Flash Gordon. Jessica Rabbit from who framed rodger rabbit. And others on basis of how cool they are, and how much i like them and what they have to say as people, like the Nostalgia Chick. I often find myself arroused by gay porn, primarily male on male, but girl on girl doesn't bother me so much, as it kind of seems on a more comfortable level i guess, if slightly uncomfortable as i've only just started watching it. However, i cannot say i don't find guys attractive to look at, but when i get to know alot of them, after the intial crush, i prefer them as friends as apposed to a relationship. I was recently in a relationship with a guy and just felt uncomfortable all the time, it wasn't good. I keep finding myself looking at a friend of mine, she is very affectionate and kisses alot of people. The first time she did, it took me by suprise. But now, i want her to kiss me more. It's on the check mind you, but just having her do it makes me feel alot more comfortable than when my boyfriend used to kiss me on the hand. I have done nothing with either sex. I find women much more attractive than men, but the thought of having sex with a man is not worrisome for me, but i'm deathly scared of being pregnant, giving birth, and children up until an independent age. I keep going back on forth on what i think i am, but i feel most comfortable with the label of kinsey 4-5, but bisexual just feels like i'm lying, but i think i like men too much to be a lesbian. I've been out with two guys but i just felt uncomfortable, overwhelmingly nervous, or extremely quiet. A friend of mine told me recently she has had a huge thing for me in the past, which made me extremely flattered, i think possibly even moreson than when i was told a guy liked me. I wonder, however, if i am really at this level, or i am faking, which often leads to some nights where i'm lying away terrified that i'm being a phony. This type of thinking has been going for along time, however, since i was around 10. Please, i need some clarrity. What do you think i am? anything you can say would be a big :help:
You're only 16 - what 16 year old wouldn't be scared of giving birth and raising a family? I think you're maybe right about where you stand on the Kinsey scale, but it could also be that you're not so good around guys because you're young or/and shy, perhaps? Then again, if you've felt unsure about things since you were young, that could mean something. Ask yourself: how do you really feel when you're around guys and girls? Which sex do you feel more attracted to? It can be hard to tell when you're questioning, but sometimes you need to just go with your nature, which is something you just do without thinking about it sometimes. If you feel you'd like to date a girl, try it, see where it goes! At least you know what it feels like to be uncomfortable in a relationship, so if the same thing happens, you know you can just end it. Sure, you might ask if you're uncomfortable because it'd be a gay relationship, but regardless, you should be with someone who makes you happy. And ideally who you're sexually attracted to Emotional romantic attraction is probably more important though. So, to answer your question: I think you're young and hormonal, and either: Same-sex and opposite-sex attracted with a preference for women; Appreciative of womens' attractiveness but not necessarily attracted to them; Bisexual and uncomfortable around men. There are honestly so many things people could think you are, and it's up to you to discover for yourself (but this doesn't necessarily mean without others' advice! You just need to know what speaks to you). Just don't worry and don't overthink. It's a scary age, especially when you're questioning your sexuality, but you'll eventually know what to do. Just have fun and again, don't worry ^^
