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I think I like my best friend

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by idk96, Nov 10, 2013.

  1. idk96

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    Ok, so I am really close to my best friend and I think I'm starting to like him in that sort of way. I'm an junior in High School and he's a senior. We have known each other for about a year now. He was new at my school and I always feel bad for the new people so I decided to try to be friends with him. It just clicked, it was like we were made for each other. Both of us dress similarly, have the same taste in girls (both of us are pretty straight), music, cars, etc. it was so cool to find someone who really understood me and vice versa. Eventually we started talking about intimate stuff and we know each other from the inside out. Some people have asked either of us if we are gay, mainly because of the way both of us dress and because I let him use my locker too since he was new at my school and didn't have one. Even though we aren't gay, we have done things that could be considered gay. We gave seen each other naked countless times, we slap each other's asses as a joke, we have dry humped each other more than once, we have lain down in bed together in just underwear after waking up from sleepovers, we have swum naked together, we tend to play wrestle in the pool, we've masturbated in front of each other...i mean idk if it's just stuff that best friends end up doing or if it's something more. Like he grabbed my hand once and shoved it down the front of his pants and i ended up touching his d*** and he said once he wish there was a girl version of me he could f***. A gay guy even asked him out once and he was shocked and even disgusted at the same time. I think I'm developing feelings for him, i just honestly don't know. I know he would definitely not be into kissing or stuff like that but I feel like if there's anyone in the world I could experiment with, it would be him. Please help me and give me some advice, it's honestly tearing me apart and I know I'm definitely not gay, I've had gf's before and I've kissed girls (he hasn't had either even though he's ridiculously good looking, no homo). Oh and also, both of us consider ourselves slightly homophobic, which just makes things more complicated. Like we both have the view that homosexuals are free to do what they wish as long as it doesn't involve either of us.
     
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  2. idk96

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    Also, he's told me that he's curious about gay porn. I don't know if he's watched it yet. I have already watched it, usually I like straight porn but sometimes I'm in the mood for gay porn. I'm just saying all this stuff so that you guys can get a feel for the friendship and help guide me. I don't know if I'm bisexual or if I just like my friend.
     
  3. tommyj

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    I don't know for sure and these are only my options, so take them as such. It seems like you have a special relationship. It may be more, or it could be that you are very close, as you have said. There are defiently some "gay" things that are happening, but does that make you both gay? I'm not sure. Have you tried talked to him about it? May be he is feeling the same way, but scared to bring it up too.

    How does it make you feel that you look at him like that? Does it make you happy or would you rather that it wasn't happening?
     
  4. idk96

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    Thanks for responding. We have kind of brought it up. On one instance he asked me if I was gay and I told him absolutely not, and the same thing happened when I asked him. One time he told he me thinks he might be a little gay/bisexual because I'm the only guy he's liked or thought of sexually. In all honesty that's how I feel, I just couldn't bring myself to tell him, so I just looked at him for a few seconds and he said that he was kidding and that it was all a joke. I said that there's no way you can make up something like that and keep a straight face (he has a hard time keeping a straight face when he's kidding and he seemed totally serious when he said this), and he said that it really was a joke. I guess you could say I'm okay with feeling like this, I mean I always enjoy spending time with him, and I feel that developing feelings like that is sort of inevitable since we are so similar in personality and have gotten quite intimate with each other. Also I've never looked at a guy that way, we talk about girls with each other and stuff
     
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    I would suggest that you continue to work on your friendship and see how it goes. It really seems like you have something special which is very nice to hear.
     
  6. idk96

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    Thanks for the advice!:slight_smile:
     
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    I think he probably has some kind of sexual feelings for you. It's amazing that you guys have been naked together etc. How do you even get that close to another guy >_>
    I think you should talk to him about it
     
  8. idk96

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    I have. Neither of us have a problem with it, really. We are as close as brothers and it's not a big deal. What I don't know is if this is something more or if it's normal that I develop feelings for him as my best friend.
     
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    I always considered myself straight until I developed feelings for my best friend and I'm still coming to terms with them. I mean I've accepted my feelings but am still confused about my orientation.

    What I've learned from all this is that at the end of the day, if you have feelings for your friend then that's the only thing that matters. Sometimes two straight people of the same sex can develop feelings for each other and that doesn't have to mean that either of you is gay. I know it's close to impossible but try not to focus too much on labels, but rather on your feelings.

    Like WhiteShadows said, I think you should try to talk to him about it. I know it's hard but it's basically the only way.