hey, I am questioning my sexuality. I was wondering what made everyone know that you were gay? I have a boyfriend that I've had for 10 months but I CANNOT quit thinking about a beautiful woman I met the other day. I've always kind of wondered and been curious and I just don't know if I am or not. I have no one here to talk about it with so I really need advice!
well I looked at a lot of porn from ages 12-23, but I don't recommend that. I recommend fiction and fantasy. Go read some gay fiction, and see how you feel about it. Seeing one attractive woman the other day does not make you open to homosexual relationships. Read some tender and sweet romance and see what it does to you. I promise it's a better indicator of your sexual alignment than just seeing a pretty girl once.
Liking one member of the same sex doesn't mean you're gay. What about bisexual, seeing as you have a boyfriend? Basically, you're the only one who knows how you feel, there's no way of telling for sure whether you're definitely gay or straight or bi, but if you feel your attraction to this woman is making you doubt attraction for all other men, and you feel like you could see yourself with a woman then that's your answer. There's no way to test yourself, because that over-complicates things. Usually you "just know", whether you admit it to yourself or not, and if you don't "just know" then it's likely you're bisexual or maybe just attracted to that one woman. Either way, it sounds like you need more time to figure out who you're really attracted to. Don't force any feelings.
