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I'm gay but scared I might be straight

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by CaptainJackz, Nov 26, 2013.

  1. CaptainJackz

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    I am sexually attracted to guys. There is no question about it. At school, out in public, when I see a hot guy I look. I check them out. I'm sexually attracted; point blank.

    However, I have never even been kissed. Guy or girl. And I don't like gay porn. When I masturbate (awkward lol) it is to pictures and videos of guys (naked or not), alone, doing solo things.

    But when I watch gay porn, I find myself saying most of the time, "ew no" and closing the video. Especially when they zoom in on the actual penetration. Yet like I said, a vid of a guy just jacking off or whatever turns me on. Also, even though I don't like the gay porn, in real life, I want to be physical with a guy. I want feel them up and be touched and all that fun stuff.:lol: I also feel like I want to be in a relationship with a guy. Being with a girl would just feel so unsatisfying for me.

    I love asses. Guy or girl, there's just something about an ass that turns me on. But I don't know if that means I actually do like girls or if its just the body part.

    But then I tell myself, what if I end up with a guy, and I don't like it? I've gotten so used to being gay that I'm actually scared I might be straight. What if my feelings of gay are actually psychological issues due to no male friends? I just dont know and it petrifies me... I don't want to be straight
     
  2. GeeLee

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    I don't think you should be reading into your sexuality based on your taste in porn. There's lots of people who are gay but don't like gay porn, it's not anything to be worried about.
     
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    I wouldn't let a distaste in gay porn overrule your seemingly natural attraction to guys in general. You desire to be with a guy sexually and emotionally, whereas girls are a turn off and you can't see yourself with one. I would say you seem pretty gay by the sounds of it. Some types of porn aren't for everyone. You being a guy watching other guys jack off or whatever by themselves and be turned on by it isn't exactly straight behavior in my opinion. :wink:
     
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    For starters if you like pics and vids of naked guys, you still like gay porn. You just like a particular sub-type of gay porn. In a similar vein, your preferred activities when you start doing stuff with guys may not include anal. Or maybe it will. Too soon to say, really.

    Regardless, everyone has different preferences and yours are not that unusual. A significant percentage of gay guys don't like anal, although to hear gay popular culture tell it, it's the be all and end all.

    At the end of the day, do what you like and are comfortable with. If, at some point, you start to feel that you want to try anal (whether with a particular guy or just on general principles) that's perfectly fine. If you try it and don't want to ever do it again, that's perfectly fine. If you don't ever want to try it, that's perfectly fine.

    Hope this helps,

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  5. Drago2012

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    The world of porn is GARGANTUAN, you'll find one you like eventually. I personally hate, normal gay porn. It seems WAY to fake to enjoy. I prefer, like you said, guys doing it solo either on webcams or something similar, this is also known as amateur videos. Gives it a very real vibe, as if you could have been there watching :lol:
    And like others said, you sounds pretty gay to me too.
     
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    Lots of gay porn is gross XD. I wouldn't suggest using that as an indicator.
     
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    Well , I have to confess that gay stuff is a huge turn on to me . Yeah yeah I know I'm a weird girl . I often imagine 2 guys kissing hard , push each other against the wall and all . I get so damn aroused that way . But when it comes to porn I only watch lesbian porn . It gets me excited as well . I can't get myself watch any straight porn or gay porn . I guess it's because most of porn are just boring and I'm not a big fan of penetration . When it comes to real life . I enjoy cuddle with girls and guys as long as I have feeling for them . So I know I'm bisexual . Trust me , dude . It's no way your taste in porn can turn you straight . Hehe.
     
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    Apart from not worrying that you dont enjoy some types of gay porn, I dont think you need to fear being straight or being gay. Life is very big and i dont even think its wrong for a person to change sexual orientation at some point(s) in their life when it comes naturally to them to do so. Just learn about what turns you on and dont worry about fitting into the stereotypes...we are all unique :slight_smile: Its what makes life colourful.