Why do I want to be gay?

You're probably just more sexually attracted to guys than to girls. I wouldn't say it means anything outside of unequal sexual attraction, but it's up to you how you want to identify yourself

 

An attempt at simplification of ones life? Being Bi has complications and they are not easy to manage, particularly if you are somewhere near the middle of the spectrum. Seeking, and being in, relationships are much easier if you are at one end of the spectrum or the other. If you are Bi, people will wonder if you will drop them for someone of the other sex. It's like the lines of what's OK and what's not, as far as other people are concerned, become blurred and people may not be clear on where they stand.

 

I can relate. I know I like girls, but I'm not sure if I like guys or not. I hope that I'm just a lesbian.

 

As some one who first identified as straight (because society forced me to) then came out as bisexual then realized that I'm a lesbian, I can understand what you are saying. Bisexuals and people who are not on either extremes generally have to deal with the whole "every one" is monosexual (on either extremes) sentiment. You might feel not totally in place in a lgbt meeting, because let's be serious homosexuals tend to be the center of attention at that zone (unfortunately, every one else including trans, intersex etc. are pushed aside in my opinion), so you might feel like an outsider in both the gay and mainstream community. Generally people assume that you are either fully straight or gay..so it can feel a bit lonesome when you don't identify as either. Furthermore, it can be complicated when people try to erase your sexuality out of every thing or throw all these stereotypes on you.

So, long story short, I get you.
Hang in there.
Hugs

 

It is confusing. I can't even tell if I genuinely like guys or not. I hope it's just a false attraction caused by hormones and OCD.

 

I'm not that much into porn, but yes.

 

Because being gay is awesome as heck.
Jk. Well no, it's awesome, but that's probably not why you want to be gay.

Like others have said, it's easier on you if you're one or the other, instead of having to be constantly thinking about both sides.
I know I would want a definitive answer about whether I'm gay or straight.

In regards to you having better orgasms watching gay porn;
You say that you want to be gay. Perhaps because you desire that more, sexual intercourse between two men turns you up a bit more than straight porn.

 

I watch straight porn every now and then, and it's always about the D.

 

Of course, you'll have to figure this out for yourself, but I'll tell you the thought process I went through when I was realizing I was gay.

I realized I found men attractive, so I thought I must be bi (like you think).

Then I noticed I pretty much only watch straight porn for the D (!)

So, I started watching gay porn, telling myself that I leaned a bit more one way than the other, but I was still bi.

But I really knew I wanted to be one or the other, not bi, so I decided to go with gay.

I later realized I am totally gay.

If that makes any sense, awesome. I tried haha.

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I know it eases the mind to say "I'm gay" or "I'm bi" and have that be the end of it, but there's no way we humans can fit solely into one group. We're so complex, and we always change.

If you really want to be gay, why don't you just go with it?
You can still have your minor sexual attraction to women, but if you know that you want to be gay, just go with it. See how it feels. You can keep it to yourself, and you can change if you don't think it's working out for you.

 

I'm in the same boat. I finally just said to myself that in this moment I am more attracted to men than I am women. I just looked myself in the mirror and said I am gay. It's only been 5 days since then, and things have not gotten better but more confusing. Since then I have really isolated myself from everyone around me and just questioned everything. But I made a choice and am trying to act upon that choice. If it is the wrong choice, well then at least I made a choice and can find my way back.

It gets hard when you stand at that fork in the road. But at least you came to EC, and that stands for something. Now you can know you are not alone!

 

Just let it grow on you. There is NO Rush to this...