Okay so ive been struggling with my sexuality for about 2 years now. I basically have been frigid towards boys my whole life and i didn't really understand why i could bring myself to kiss them, be in a relationship with them, or have an romantic actions with them. But i did find boys physically attractive and have crushes on them, actually in middle school i was probably "boy crazy" (but for me it was basically thinking boys where attractive only because i still didn't date them) until i grew out of it in about eighth grade. Anyway since about seventh grade i have been physically attracted to girls. At first i didn't realize it but then i noticed that when a cute girl walked by i would usually take a second look and check them out. But i thought that it didn't mean anything because i identified as straight, but then i actually thought as straight, but then i actually thought about it and noticed that i actually thought about sex with girl during masturbating and enjoyed. So i put these feelings off as purely sexual until three months ago when i noticed this butch girl at my school. She is absolutely beautiful in my personal opinion, and this is the first time that i have actually want to be in relationship with someone and that person is her. I would kiss her and be romantic with her. This has caused lots of thought going on and i have thought about marrying a girls only and only having relationships with them in the future. These thoughts are much more than i have ever experienced about guys and ever since i have started liking the butch at my school i am not interested in boys anymore. A lot of people are telling me this is a phase but i really don't think it is. I feel complete. Btw im almost 15 and im a girl. How do i know if its not a phase? And what is my sexual orientation?:help:
Well you said you feel complete! So go with the girl! As for sexual orientation, it's gunna go back and forth, especially once you start dating. So don't label yourself just yet. But for now if you do want one then just say your lesbian or bisexual! Whatever u feel more comfortable with!
I don't really like it when people call things such as that "phases". It feels very strange and I don't believe that anyone goes through the same "phase", you know what I mean? It should be replaced as a period of finding out what you like/who you are/etc. It's up to you if you think it's a phase. Most teens discover themselves when puberty begins, so it's just more of finding out about yourself. You sound like you could be bisexual, more into girls? I dunno, I mean sexuality is fluid. There isn't a specific label you have to call yourself--you're free to like whoever you want to like. I wouldn't put yourself in a box quite yet; you've got lots of time before you (if you want to) can call yourself straight, bisexual, lesbian, and so on. Just take time figuring it out and make sure you feel comfortable with who you are because that can make an impact on what you want in your love-life stuff. I hope you get the butch girl and I hope I helped!
Instead of saying it is a phase, or labeling yourself, focus on who you are attracted to now. Don't worry about the labels or "phases" just focus on the individual you like, not the sex/gender
