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How to tell if its a phase?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by unusedbeauty, Dec 8, 2013.

  1. unusedbeauty

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    How can you tell if you are actually lgb or if its just a " phase" ?
     
  2. BookDragon

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    Does it matter? The reason people ask this is because they think they have some sort of duty to protect you from the scary thing that is being not-straight.

    If right now being non-straight seemed right and you found someone you wanted to be with, what is the point of saying "Well I'd better not go for it, I might be straight!" What are you going to do, wait your whole life hoping the phase ends?
     
  3. Awkward Balloon

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    You don't. You enjoy it while you it's there. I've been out for nearly a year now, and I still question whether it is a phase or not, but at least I know that if it is and I end up straight (hopefully not) that I won't have let it control my life.
    Embrace what you're feeling and love it.
     
  4. karina

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    I dont think anyone will actually really figure out this question even for those who claim to be straight. You love who you want to love and be okay with it.