I am married to a man and I am female. I have discovered I am turned on by females in porn lately. I used to like the really rough stuff that are especially rough to females. Why I don't know. I never wanted to be in that situation just watch it. I thought it was because I hate females or something, and honestly I don't usually. However, I have started to imagine in certain positions that I want to lick that or taste it. I have started wanting to watch the boring part in the beginning of a porn where they are teasing and getting undressed. I am loving to see what is underneath. I am just not good with females personalities and I don't feel like one could ever make me comfortable enough like a man can to ever act on any of these desires that I have when watching, and it does make me really curious and wonder if I really want to try one day. My husband and I have discussed this and like all men, he is all for a three some and maybe I would feel safer trying in that situations because if I don't like it then they could do their thing. Since I met my husband 11 years ago, all his female friends are bi, his ex is now lesbian. I was a bit sheltered and probably never have felt this way before but I always stared at the pretty girls in admiration as a teen but had crushes on boys still. I feel confused. I almost want to act on this just to know but a real person would be involved and that scares me. I think I have objectified women and it seems wrong. I wonder why I don't know if this is bi or not. My husband considers himself bi and he has never acted on it either, he just wants to go down on a guy. I am confused for him. Is this really bi until you act on it? I know he would act on it, he is not as weird about this as I am. He is a great people person. I am weird. I don't have female friends or guy friends for that matter that I am close with they are all his really. Right now it is just me and him. I am rambling on. Have I given enough information for you to tell me if you think I am really bi?
" I have started wanting to watch the boring part in the beginning of a porn where they are teasing and getting undressed. " Otherwise known as the best bit! There is some debate about when 'you know' but a good rule of thumb is to ignore the hell out of porn. Remember, porn is specifically made to turn you on. I don't think many people would enjoy watching a dude get shot to hell in front of them, and yet we watch action films...fantasies are what they are. Could you be bi? Sure. A better question is 'does it matter'. Just because you're bi doesn't mean you HAVE to experiment with women. Heck, I've never done anything with anyone and I can tell you right now with absolute conviction what my orientation and preferences are. If you don't want to experiment, then don't, it's not like it's taking up that much of your mind that you're thinking of leaving your husband to do it or something. On the other hand, if you DO want to experiment, and you feel comfortable doing so, then why not.
Occasional fantasies of a different sexual orientation happen to everyone, but if they're relatively frequently, its a good indicator that you're bi
