Okay so well I identify as straight. But one time a really long time ago, while I was masturbating, and really horny, I was watching a video then I wanted a better one, so while still turned on and masturbating I saw a big wet penis. And I got turned on more by this. Does this make me gay? I was not imagining doing anything to it. I was just more imagining it was me. I remember when it happend I was like "omg I wish that was my dick" and now I'm not sure what to think. I'm not sure if this would make me gay.
As many people will tell you - Porn doesn't define your orientation you do. If you say you're straight then you are
Thanks but what does this mean! Are u trying to say it was just a Sexually image and I got aroused like any porn would do? I'm only interested in girls but I am just confused dddddddddddd and I have been for a while
If you don't get aroused by the thought of having sexual interactions with another man, I think it's safe to say you're straight. It is normal to get aroused by the sight of a penis while watching pornography as the whole purpose of watching it is to imagine that it is YOU doing it. So it's natural to think "I wish that was my penis". You get mutual satisfaction from watching the act. Don't worry about it.
I think what Kawaii was saying is that liking particular types of porn doesn't necessarily make you something. Porn is, after all, designed specifically to turn you on and so it's no surprise that people of all sexualities can be turned on by a range of porn, some of it quite outlandish with regard to their sexuality. Example: lots of lesbians like to watch gay porn, and lots of straight guys take the occasional dip into gay porn as well. That can even apply with fantasies, but to a lesser extent. It may well not have been a gay thought which turned you on then, it could've been empathetic arousal, admiration, or literally just the general eroticism. I'm sure you know as well as any other guy (or girl) that some nights you just get so randy that anything humanoid will do. Maybe that was one of those nights. The way you've written it makes it sound like you're fairly straight- you say it was a long time ago, and it was while you were horny, and you just happened upon this image. So was this a one-time-only or a rare occurrence? If it was, I wouldn't get too worked up about it, since you can easily still be straight and have that. You don't mention any major signs, like frequent preference of gay fantasies, wanting to have sex with a guy, or wanting a romantic relationship with one. There's nothing there that made me think "hang on, this doesn't sound straight". And you still love girls, which is great. So, it sounds like you're straight but either way don't sweat it man.
Sounds to me like you were envious of the penis that you saw. It doesn't sound like you were sexually attracted to the penis, but more maybe it was more of what having a penis that size would mean. As guys, we can get hard-ons all over the place. Don't worry about it.
No it doesn't mean you're gay if you did not imagine doing anything to it. Completely normal reaction.
OK, so if you want to get a better picture of where your sexual orientation lies, you need to look at a combination of things: -- Masturbate (without porn) and fantasize. Try fantasizing about girls, being with girls, girls' bodies and such. See what that experience is like. -- Then, the next time you masturbate (again, without porn), try thinking about guys in the same way. One of those is likely to cause you to become a lot more excited and aroused than the other. That's one piece of the puzzle. -- Pay attention when you're out and about as to where your eyes wander when you aren't thinking about it and paying attention. Do you notice guys? girls? both? The important thing here is, if you are attracted to guys, it's likely that you're not comfortable accepting this, so the denial process will cause you to (consciously) reject what you're feeling. If you're gay, and find yourself getting excited thinking about guys, then right after you ejaculate, you'll likely feel gross and disgusted, because your conscious mind is rejecting what your unconscious is feeling. On the other hand, if you're straight, then guys / penises / fantasizing about guys won't do much of anything for you. You won't feel aroused, you won't really feel revulsed, it will most likely be more like "Meh." The important thing to realize is, this is a process that takes time to think about, understand, and come to terms with. Talking about it is the first step, and you're already doing that. So if you're comfortable continuing to share what's going on for you, you can get some feedback and input that might help you clarify what you're feeling.
Following this rubric, I'm definitely gay; i.e., I can only get hard thinking about men, feel kinda disgusted/ashamed after climaxing, etc.. Wish something would get the message to my eyes, which are perpetually eyefucking women while ignoring men. :bang:
I think over time that will change. The argument between unconscious and conscious can be really irritating, but as you become more comfortable with yourself, I think you'll notice that your eyes start conforming with the rest of your body
In answer to this, when I fantasize without porn it is always about girls! And I get more aroused by girls. When I fantasize about girls I think about them moaning, there hot legs, and wet vaginas! If i try to fantasize about guys it is not much really, uhm I don't have anything that is really a turn on, I don't get "excited" from anything. if I think about a guy and ejaculate like you said to do, it was just "meh" it's not special and I do not feel a need to go back to it. And mo.i do not fantasize about guys I. My fantasies. I did this for the sole purpose of doing what you told me to. otherwise when I masturbate it's always about girls, and they get me.horny to begin with. So I'm unconsciously aroused by girls in my fantasies and consciously. Same with porn actually, I watched gay porn to "check" and it was just "meh" i have never been back to it since that one time I watched it. Now I have one more thing to add in idl if it can be helpful I was watching porn today and fantasizing at the same time, and they showed a guys body, he was muscular and all that, and it didn't make me aroused at all, gave me nothing. So I'm not sure If this is something important to tell you or what. And the penis thing never happend again btw, it's been liek 6 months since then, but ever since then i just Ben worrying. and as for who I lool at when I'm out, I'm not too sure. I look at everyone to be honest. It's not something I focus on, I'm not out looking for anyone. But when I do happen to see a black or colored girl(which I'm attracted to) I do check them out and fantasize about stuff with them. And that's all I got to say, not much else left! And I'm on of those people who worries about EVERYTHING. And I do have ocd and all that ish. It's bad, I do it with everything and my therapist is saying that I'm worrying about this too much. But a bit if background. Uhm never been in a relationship with a girl but tried many times, I'm 19 y/o and I have never questioned my sexuality before. And that's my life lol I love women and vaginas and boobs and defiantly girls legs. ---------- Post added 25th Dec 2013 at 04:56 PM ---------- I'll be completely honest. Idk my attraction to guys at all. But right now I'm full of anxiety and depression. And I wanna say that I am somewhat bisexual, like a Kinsey 1 if anything. But ik when I have anxiety like this and depression I always say that. But when I'm calmed down and relaxed I'm like "oh yeah no I'm straight" and I do need to say something else, like some of you may think I'm saying all of this so I can get the "answer" I'm looking for. Which is I'm straight. But that's not the truth, I want the cold hard truth. But I never thought about a guys body and got turned on. And I would love for a moderator to be completely honest with me. Like i want the honest true answer myself we there it does mean I'm straight, gay or bisexual. I just want an answer. And I am scared like anyone would be because I may discover something new about myself or I may not, and not knowing is scary. So of course I'm scared like anyone in my position would be. It's just I always tend to worry about anything way more than I should and if you knew me you would know what I mean, I do it with everything.
