So I think I am straight but maybe I need to explain a bit first. Divorced for a long time and a few lovers all straight females. Changes in lifestyle have me living sober the past few years and I have been getting in to video chat rooms and and guys will compliment me. I enjoy the compliments and helps my self esteem. I watch the women in the chat rooms but there are always more men than women. Site is great large LGBT community so you get a bit of everything. So I get turned on knowing people of any orientation enjoy watching me. I think this makes me a straight exhibitionist. Until it comes to some aspects of anal and oral sex. I have been experimenting with masturbating while using a dildo or vibe. The stimulation of the prostate or whatever is pleasant. I am not sure I want to try anal with a partner of any type as it is difficult enough to get a small dildo in. So I don't fantasize about getting a guy to perform anal and I don't find that I want to perform anal on a man and if I am with a woman I don't try for anal as I am satisfied with regular intercourse. I do find my self looking at the TG and getting turned on (and fantasizing) but mostly having them perform oral. So I think this just means I don't care who sucks my cock and I am selfish. What do you think?
Well, you sound straight to me. Probably worth noting that all the people you've been watching are 'women', just some of us have cocks. Frankly, if you're not thinking about guys, or particularly interested in any aspects of a gay relationship I wouldn't worry about it. Also, you can be as straight as you like and enjoy anal play while masturbating so don't worry yourself on that regard.
I would say unless you have actively fantasized about men while masturbating, (and I mean eyes closed not looking at porn kind of masturbating), or actually done something sexual with a guy, then you might not be bi. You might just be wondering what sex is like with a guy.
Not all gay/bi guys like anal. A significant chunk of non-straight guys don't care for anal or will only do it if their partner wants to or actively hate it and have no desire to do it at all. Note that anal is something that takes time and practice to get used to. With that it eventually becomes possible to relax and let something fairly good size in pretty much at will. But again, only if you want to. It's not a requirement If you're interested in experimenting at the fantasy level, I'd suggest thinking about doing stuff with a guy other than anal. In straight terms most of this would be classified as foreplay. Touching, kissing, mutual masturbation, body contact, and oral (giving and receiving). If you get turned on by those/enjoy the fantasy, that might indicate you have same-sex leanings. If you'd like to experiment beyond fantasy and have concerns re anal or oral, then you can just be clear about what you're into (and not into) up front and/or perhaps check out a jack off club. Boston almost certainly has at least one and they probably have their own website (the larger clubs do) and possibly t-shirts and a softball team for all I know. JO clubs are intended to be just what they say on the tin and should indicate that certain types of behavior are NOT acceptable (anal and oral being included) and will not be allowed on the premises. And they should mean it. Hope this helps, Todd
Thanks, I hope I didn't come off as worried. I am not homophobic. I also agree with your opinion that I think I am straight but I thought by putting it out here that others might confirm or enlighten. I wasn't even too sure there wasn't a classification that applied to me. ---------- Post added 27th Dec 2013 at 07:21 PM ---------- Starry Eyes, good insight. Have not had any male fantasies pretty much at all. I see guys in the chat room and envy their equipment. Pretty much stops there. I think what got me post here was that some of the men that try and chat me up say, "Oh not Bi, I was like you and then …" It seems like many are trying to convert me. I am far from porn star looks VERY far so I really don't know why they bother. I think maybe cause I have stretching gear on when in the chat room so I get inquiries about being submissive as well. Maybe this contributes to the advice (unsolicited) other men are giving me. Here is where I came for solicited advice. Thanks!
