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What comes first?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by NaNtastic, Dec 30, 2013.

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Which of the following things did you experience first?

  1. Having a relationship

    11 vote(s)
    73.3%
  2. Losing virginity

    4 vote(s)
    26.7%
  1. NaNtastic

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    As someone who has not had any experiences yet, I really don't know where to go with this. What comes first, relation or virginity-loss?

    What I seem to be giving a lot of worth and thought, is that I must truly trust the person I would lose my virginity to. And trust is, in my opinion, mostly found in relationships! So, compareable to the chicken-and-egg paradox, which one comes first?
     
  2. Awkward Balloon

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    Well I haven't gone as far as losing my virginity yet, but I hooked up with a guy and gave head. This was mostly for fun, but also to verify that I was actually gay.
    I have been unlucky in the relationship scene, although deep down that's what I want much more than sex.
     
  3. BryanM

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    It depends on the type of person. If a person is more keened in on being monogamous and having a single partner that they love, then the relationship would probably come first. If a person is more into one night stands and having open relationships, then losing the virginity would probably come first. I went with the first option of the relationship, because I had my first boyfriend this year while I was still a virgin.
     
  4. NaNtastic

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    I think I'm this kind of person, but then on the other hand it seems 'boring' to me to have one-hands-count maximum of people I have ever been in bed with.. As my signature says, I'm more two-poled than earth itself, I never know :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: