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Questioning My Sexuality

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by ClosetedGuy, Jan 1, 2014.

  1. ClosetedGuy

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    I am 14 years old and I am questioning my sexuality.

    I recently came out to my best friend who was very supportive because she was just like me. I knew I was gay since I was 10 years old but a few days after coming out I noticed that I am not sexually attracted to guys any more so I was scared and confused. A week later I was sexually attracted again but then I wasn't after 3 days. I gave it another week and I am still not sexually attracted to guys.

    Note: I was never sexually attracted to girls.

    Yesterday, I had a sleep over with two girls (one of them doesn't know I am gay) and before we slept, I went to give a hug to one of them and I felt this warm sensation and I got a bit turned on BUT I am still not sexually attracted to girls.

    What does that make me? :confused:
     
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    Well i dont know what that makes you, but i can share a similar event that happened to me.

    On Thanksgiving, about 3 weeks after coming out to my wife, i was really lonely and a little drunk so i asked her if we could snuggle when we went to bed. At that point it was over a month since our last encounter. I dont know if it was the loneliness or just being near a warm body but we (attempted) to have sex that didnt end very well (actually didnt end for me at all)

    Maybe for you it was just being close to someone that turned you on?
     
  3. ClosetedGuy

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    Usually whenever I am close to a girl I never get turned on unless we are very close friends. I never think about having sex with them though, it just turns me on and I probably would kiss them.
     
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    I guess maybe you're demisexual, depending on who you've been attracted to in the past. If it was a friend, then you may just be demisexual, but if it was porn or a stranger, then you're probably gay, you just don't have a crush right now. Hope I helped :slight_smile:
     
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    Thank you for the answer! but I only started watching porn a few months ago which I only watched about 4-6 times. Lesbian porn or straight porn doesn't turn me on at, all but gay porn used to turn me on, but even since I came out to my best friend, it doesn't. :confused:
     
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    I completely understand how you feel dude. the way that sexuality flunctuates confuse me deeply. Right now I'm leaning towards girls after being strictly attracted to guys for 5 months. Also, after I came out to my brother, I started to fancy girls more. This is what I think is happening. (BTW, this is just my opinion, so it could be wrong) I am also in my teen years and I think that the hormones produced during puberty make an affect towards sexual attraction. I'm not saying that your attraction towards guys is a phase, but the hormones are just making everything go crazy. You could also be demisexual like optionthree said. I would guess that u would be bisexual because you could be attracted to a girl emotionally.