Hi! I came out a few years ago as a lesbian, and never regretted it. But here's the thing; I had boyfriends before I came out, who I really did like, but there was always something missing. All I really wanted to do was sit up all night talking to them, and physical contact was rare unless I was drunk or pressured. Even just kissing. All my relationships with men ended around the same point, when they felt I wasn't attracted to them. I love girls, emotionally and sexually, I really do. But my romantic feelings for girls never seem to be as intense as my feelings for men. I get these feelings for guys, but as soon as it turns to anything more than a bit of kissing or hugging, I push them away, it makes me uncomfortable, unlike with girls. I suppose my question is; Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to guys and still identify as a lesbian? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks xxx
Yeah it's possible...I'm pretty sure the term would be 'hetero-romantic homosexual' or some variation on that theme... Having said that, I have a question about your sexual attraction to girls. I'm guessing you wouldn't be asserting the fact if you didn't find 'girls' as an idea attractive, so is it possible that like so many of us, you push the girls you've been with away because they just aren't right for you? It seems to be a fairly common thing that when people look for same sex partners they seem to hold them to higher standards than opposite sex...at least I seem to see a lot of that anyway!
Hi, thanks for your reply! It's just the guys that I push away, I'm very sure that I'm sexually attracted to girls, and emotionally, I just seem to fall for guys quicker and easier. I just don't know how I actually feel about my feelings for men. I wish sexuality was easy to understand!
yeah i suppose, they are your friends and maybe you can relate to them, i guess when it comes to being physical you feel threatened around guys, i do too it's nothing to worry about, i guess you are just looking for someone to be close to but guys just make you feel awkward. -sorry if this doesn't help ---------- Post added 4th Jan 2014 at 01:16 PM ---------- wow i replied late, sorry my sister walked into the room xD
