Hi! I'm new here, and I was wondering about something... I feel like I'm queer. Not exactly gay, not exactly bisexual either. Just queer. And I feel that way because my attractions are not gender-specific. So I guess some people might think of me as bisexual, but there's something else to it as well: I'm female, and although I feel sexually attracted to both sexes, I can't see myself actually being with a man. It just seems wrong to me, if that makes sense. My attractions to men seem to be emotionally empty (although I am entirely capable of connecting with them on a friendship level). Now, I should state that I have no problem being female. I feel neutral about it, and I suspect I'd feel neutral about my biological sex if I happened to be male as well. I can easily imagine myself living as either sex/gender. So when I try and imagine what life would be like as a man, and get really into it, I can see my queerness intact, my attraction to both sexes still present. But in that case, I can't really see myself being with a woman! It's very odd to me. If I imagine myself as a female-bodied person, I can feel my connection with other females, but not males. And I can feel the exact opposite if I imagine myself as a male-bodied person. So is it possible that I don't really have a romantic preference towards either gender, and simply have, as the title suggests, a general disposition to queerness?
Well... I don't know if there is a name for it or serious research into it, but when I've been reading some accounts of trans* people actually transitioning, there was a surprising number of stories about them "keeping being gay" or "staying straight" afterwards (and being very surprised about it.) So, I think, yes, for some people at least it really works that way. The best I can tell it's not common, and I can't even think of a way you could tell the difference in a cisgendered person, but I'd say it's real.
I was queer for years before my 'gay' caught up with me. Straight with sexual relations... but just got more and more queer till that changed, or came out... whatever. I think this might be most common with those who are drawn home with Radical Faeries. Google that if you don't know what they are.