I currently have a girlfriend for more than a year. We are both femme, both each other's first girlfriend. But I am starting to question my sexuality, whether or not, I am gay, gay for her, bi or straight. Growing up, I went to a Catholic girls school, so I was very comfortable around girls. However, I never dated any girls until college, nor did I ever have a boyfriend, (still don't have a boyfriend now.) I am now 22 years old, still not sure about my sexuality. So if someone can provide some insight, it will be greatly appreciated. I find the female and male body attractive, but I think the female body is more attractive comparatively. My girlfriend and I never have any penetrative sex. We only touch each other and very occasionally give very light oral sex. I have never been able to orgasm with her, however, she had. I enjoy watching SM video/(porn?), I do watch sex scenes from time to time, straight, gay (not lesbian), but I do not usually orgasm watching those. But I do find penetration, especially gay porn sexy. So sometimes, I am very confused, because I do find penetration very sexy. Thank you for your opinion.
Finding something sexy doesn't necessarily dictate your orientation. There are plenty of guys who enjoy anal play for example but that does not make them gay! In regards to your sexuality, I couldn't possibly comment given the information I have, except to say that at the moment I wonder if it is really the big issue you have here. If it turned out for example, that you were 'gay for her' as you put it, what would you do? Would you stay with her, would you leave her and look for a guy? What if you were told you were straight? What would that do to your current relationship?
