Alright, so I'm gettin to the point of where I'm pretty sure of my sexuality, but I just want to run 'the facts by others and get the perspective of others. Within the past two years I/I've... -had sex with several guys -come to find out that I love being a bottom and love sucking dick -masturbate to gay porn exclusively the only hangup I have that's preventing me from feeling 100% gay is that when I see girls I still think "she's hot" and check out their bodies and faces, and I'll think they look cute or hot. I guess what I'm trying to ask is...what does it mean that I have these super gay tendencies (for example: I LOVE dick, I love being the bottom and being F'ed, I can totally tell when a guy is hot, I feel way more feminine than masculine, etc.) but I also can still see women and think they're hot and would want to have sex with them? I could say I'm Bi, but I'm also sooooo into guys. Like, what the hell... I want to so badly say "I'm gay". I know sexuality is "fluid" and everything, but to me it feels like, since I feel so gay, that I should just be, I don't know, all the way gay...but I'll still see women and think of them as hot, sexy, cute, etc. Are my feelings towards woman just one last sliver of denial? or is it possible to be REALLY into guys and also into girls too? Thank you for any and all responses
"but I'll still see women and think of them as hot, sexy, cute, etc." We totally are! But are you likely to turn around and date a woman now? There's no reason you can't be as gay as can be just because you can still appreciate women! Some may argue with that fact, and some may call you straight up bisexual but honestly, it's your life...fair enough if you find yourself having sex with a woman everyone involved might find it a bit difficult to say you are completely gay with a straight face but really that's up to you. Could it be denial? It COULD be, but it's not like you're sitting here saying 'so I KNOW I'm gay but I'd better only ever date girls because I'm pretty sure I still like them'. If it IS denial, it's weak and not really affecting you, so I wouldn't worry about it too much!
You are probably gay. Any gay man would find a woman cute/sexy, they would however not find them sexually appealing. If female 'body parts' don't give you a boner, then you aren't bisexual. I too recognize a pretty girl, and I would have no problem if I find myself in a position of being sexually involved with one, I would simply not be fond of it. But I'm only saying this based on what you said here.
Most people aren't 100% gay or lesbian or whatever. It's the same in my case. I can't get enough of girls, but i still look at guys and think they're hot.
Something someone told me that really helped me figure out whether I was gay or bi is pay attention to physiological responses. I have a tendency to overthink EVERYTHING so listening to the hardwiring in your brain can really simplify a lot of this. I know I think that sexuality is beautiful no matter what the gender is of the people participating but for me I only find myself responding physiologically to men. That was what tipped me off. It takes some time to figure it out. Try not to overthink it.
Appreciating aesthetics has nothing to do with being gay or straight. If you have zero desire to be intimate with females then you're gay. If you want to also have relations with females then you're probably bi in a true sense. Sounds like you're pretty happy being gay though. Run with it.
