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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by fundipisabby, Jan 13, 2014.

  1. fundipisabby

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    OK so I am sooo confused at this point. Ok so when I was 14-15 I had lesbian interactions and it was spectacular but since then I haven't had any other girlfriends, it's been about 3 years now since then. And I feel like I might possibly just be gay. I'm not just jumping to conclusions. Ok so I had just gotten out of a relationship with this guy I work so hard to get into, he was the utmost perfect guy I could even dream about. Regardless I just didn't feel anything he even waited till I felt ready he wasn't pushy in anyway and respected my boundaries. When I think of myself having sexual fantasies with a guy it slightly turns me on, but when I think about girl it excites me so much more. I'm not trying to persuade you that I'm lesbian I just have been in so many relationships with guys that I work so hard to get into then I kinda feel like I got to where I want now what? Any ideas?:eusa_doh:
     
  2. paris

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    If you need to work so hard to be in a relationship with a guy I'd say that it's not natural for you to be with a guy, don't you think?
     
  3. fundipisabby

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    I suppose this is right but why would I still be attracted to them in this way? Like I don't get why I feel the need to be with a guy like this.
    Thanks for your response also.
     
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    Lots of lesbians have relationships with guys too just because you had a relationship with men and probably a lot doesn't mean your not a lesbian .
     
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    You might be bisexual. Or else maybe you've just grown up thinking you'll be with men so part of you still believes it?
     
  6. EttyT

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    I find myself in quite a similar position! Feel free to read my blog entry, you might relate! I know how confusing it can be :/
    I realise how unhelpful that was, but how can I help someone in a similar position to my own if I cannot help myself!