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Think I'm bisexual but still slightly confused?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by west72, Jan 13, 2014.

  1. west72

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    My feelings feel on and off sometimes i feel sexually attracted to guys but romantically attracted to girls.

    But why do i feel nothing after getting excited or masturbating about guys. Its like i literally feel nothing its like oh its over i felt nothing. However I only get excited for guys and masturbate about guys, never about girls now.

    However as normal these gay feelings and liking guys is at a high at night or when masturbating, but in my daily life, Its purely girls I check out as usual.
     
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    I'm in a similar situation, where I find myself romantically attracted to girls, and sexually attracted to guys. On the contrary, I check out guys in public all the time. It's made my understanding of my sexuality quite confusing.
     
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    Hi west72, pleased to meet you.

    I find myself in the opposite situation. I am excited and masturbate to girls, but don't fall in love with them and i don't date them.

    At the same time it seems to me to be romantically attracted to guys, but i feel disgust and repulsion if i watch gay porn or think of having sex with them.
     
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    I don't know what age you are, if you're young it could be just a hormonal thing and it could mellow out in time and then you'll know? It is possible to be sexually and romantically attracted to different genders, but there's also a chance that with time it will become clearer to you when you have experiences and stuff. Is it possible you're checking girls out because of habit?
     
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    its good to see im not alone. Its so confusing isnt it.

    hello Ristampa, nice to meet you too. :slight_smile:

    Interesting your the exact opposite to me. Yes gay porn isnt for me too.

    Im in my 20s. Thank you for the advise.

    Yew checking girls feels like a habit. Just today i checked out guys and it didnt feel forced, but after a while i just forgot continued my day as normal.
     
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    Hi hun. I get exactly the same hun only I cross dress as well. I think tryin out with a guy is only solution. I have never met anyone yet so couldn't say but I think that's the only way forward. You're not on your own. Have u ever been with a man before?
     
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    I think you just need to find the right girl actually, it's not that your not romantically attracted to them. It's really hard to fall in love with someone they gotta be perfect and you may have high standards. If anything I believe you would be bi romantic or just straight waiting for the right girl. I would not classify yourself as anything right now for romantic. Who knows maybe the right one will come along

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    Pretty confusing, may have to wait for the future you never know what it holds. You can expect one thing and then the next thing you know the totally opposite happens out of no where
     
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    I'm pretty much identical, except that im a girl. Whats confusing me the most is that I've always had a massive crush/pretty much been in love with one of my best friends who is a guy. I don't understand my brain.
     
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    According to a friend who was bi, I was told that I tend to check out both genders. But in the past three years, I've caught myself starting to check out girls more than guys and when I did check out guys it was more what I'd refer to as aesthetically checking them out. I used to feel like I forced myself to check people out, but now I try as much as possible to relax and be more natural. I don't really crush on guys, and the rare times I did, it never really stuck. Girls I tend to attach a lot faster and want to be around them all the time. It's partially liking them a lot and partially me not having a lot of close females in my life, so when I do meet someone I really like spending time with, I attach. But I'm working on that though :grin:
     
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    No never been with a man before ever. I havent dated a girl in years so its confusing.

    thanks. Thats true.

    nice to see im not alone. Me too i dont understand my brain hald the time too.